Brandon Teena lived and loved as a man. For that, she paid with her life.
Brandon was born female, but felt male inside. Her story outraged many and captured headlines, and it has been powerfully re-told in the film Boys Don’t Cry and in the award-winning documentary The Brandon Teena Story. But to a few people in Nebraska, it is simply the sad tale of the child, sibling and friend they loved and lost.
Brandon Teena was born Teena Brandon in Lincoln, Neb., on December 12, 1972. Her mother, Joann, remembers she was handful at an early age. “As she was growing up, she was ornery and full of life,” she says. “She was a prankster, and she was a tomboy.”
But as Brandon became a teenager, her tomboyishness evolved into something more complicated. Feeling like a boy but living in a girl’s body, Brandon began stuffing a sock in her pants, something that triggered a transformation in her. She switched her name, calling herself Brandon Teena, and started to date local girls, using her bulge to convince them that she was a boy.
Although Brandon carried out life publicly as a boy, her mother says she refused to acknowledge her daughter’s new persona at home. Brandon’s growing frustration as she tried to date other women, coupled with the humiliation and name-calling she faced in town, led her to attempt suicide. Her best friend, Sarah Lyons, says she took Brandon to a crisis center.
Identity Crisis Brandon Teena’s identity crisis stemmed from the clash between her feelings about who she was and the reality of her biological condition. Individuals like her are described as transgendered. According to the Gender Identity Project, a program sponsored by the New York City Lesbian and Gay Community Services Center, transgender is “an umbrella term encompassing the diversity of gender expression.”
People who consider themselves transgender find their gender identity at odds with their anatomy. The criticism and rejection that transgender people face often result in feelings of shame, depression, secrecy and fear, and could lead to compulsive behavior.
Brandon struggled with all those feelings and more. When girlfriends asked questions about gender, she made up complicated explanations. Her compulsive behavior consisted of forging checks and using them to buy gifts for girlfriends. By 1993, Brandon faced multiple counts of theft and forgery. But what was perhaps more devastating to her was that most people in Lincoln knew the truth about who Brandon really was.
A Second Start Seeking a fresh start, Brandon moved to the remote town of Falls City. She met and started dating Lana Tisdel, and befriended two ex-convicts in Tisdel’s crowd, John Lotter and Tom Nissen. “We went out drinking together,” Nissen says. “We talked about women.”
Although it seemed Brandon Teena finally had everything, money was still a factor. So once again, Brandon started stealing, and a few days after her 21st birthday she was arrested and charged with forgery. Police, and the rest of Falls City, discovered she was not biologically male.