Tommy Lee's Tell-All

Oct. 22, 2004 — -- Tommy Lee ran wild with the heavy metal band Motley Crue, wooed and wed two of America's most desirable women, starred in the most talked-about vacation video ever, and is now sharing details about his raucous life in a new memoir.

The 42-year-old has seen his share of drama. His second marriage to Pamela Anderson ended in divorce amid charges of spousal abuse. Lee then endured a jail term and would later watch helplessly as a 4-year-old boy drowned in his pool during his son's birthday party.

His book, "Tommyland," captures his heartache and his hedonism. But before the headlines, Thomas Lee Bass was a kid from the Los Angeles suburbs who grew up craving the romance he saw his parents share.

"My mom would walk by the kitchen and my dad would pinch her butt … It was really cool to see, you know?" Lee told 20/20. "One of my favorite things in the world is to be seeing two people that are really old, still holding hands, still kissing."

And when he looks, there's one part of a woman's body that always catches his eye first. "The very first thing I look at on a woman is her toes," said Lee. "I'm totally telling the truth."

Millions of TV fans may have no trouble identifying Heather Locklear on their set, but Lee admits he initially mistook his first wife for another TV siren.

"I go … 'You're on TV right now,' " said Lee. "And she's quiet for a second and then she goes 'Tommy, that's Heather Thomas, that's not me.' … And I'm like, oh my God, I'm an idiot."

Regardless, they clicked, and the two wed in 1986. At the time Lee was the drummer for the metal band Motley Crue and faced the temptations of life on the road. Despite working on albums like "Girls, Girls, Girls," and "Dr. Feelgood," Lee said he was monogamous during the marriage.

"Absolutely," said Lee. "When I'm in love … I don't even look."