Inside the World of a Millionaire Matchmaker

Extensive Vetting Process

Beyer's process involves extensively interviewing her clients about their pasts, their upbringing and what kind of families they had, all to paint a picture of who they will work best with. She also pays close attention to what they are going through in the present, because who you are now may greatly change who you can date.

"I rely on the past, but I also have to take a snapshot of who they are right now, regardless of where they came from. This is something I have to look at because you can't judge somebody in the ashes of their life," said Beyer. "You have to give them time to get back on their feet. A year from now, someone might be dating completely different, making totally different choices.

"If I find somebody that hasn't really gotten into the groove of their life, they shouldn't be mate shopping," Beyer said.

She also helps her clients navigate a successful date, so they are getting the most of their time with that potential partner.

"I think number one is listening. It's the key to every great date, which obviously leads to every great relationship. People aren't listening anymore," Beyer said.

'Dates Aren't Supposed to Be Just Fun'

Beyer adds that another mistake people make on dates is trying to be too much fun, trying simply to entertain, rather than try to get to know the person across from you and make sure they are comfortable with you.

"It's not your job to entertain them or make it fun. Dates aren't supposed to be just fun," she said. "You're going to want to make sure that they're warm, if they have a drink in their hand, that they're comfortable, that they're being heard. That's your job -- to make someone feel comfortable around you."

Finally, one of Beyer's biggest pieces of advice: you must love and know thy self before you can love another person.

"I think a lot of people think they want love. I don't think a lot of people are ready for love. There is something about falling in love which is also about loving yourself first, and being ready to love someone," Beyer said.

"Ninety-five percent of the people I meet in my interviews are not as ready as they think they are because they haven't done the work," said Beyer. "They haven't looked inside to find out what they need. Most people have a very good handle on what they want, and not a clue what they need."

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