When Jon and Kate Gosselin -- the overachieving parents of twins and sextuplets whose family life spawned the hit reality show "Jon & Kate Plus Eight" -- announced that their marriage was on the rocks, Jon soon came in for some harsh public treatment.
Kate began spilling her heart out about the couple's problems, while Jon chose to explore the party scene. He was photographed on yachts, living it up as his marriage fell apart.
In a recent People magazine article, Kate jokingly blamed an alien abduction for Jon's transformation from a computer technician into a rock 'n' roll jet-setter.
Now, Jon has told ABC News in an exclusive interview that the headlines have been unfair. Magazine cover stories bashing him and praising Kate, he said, were both off-base and beside the point.
"I would say, let's finish what we got to finish and move on with our lives," Gosselin said. "And stop feeding into the frenzy."
The media feeding frenzy and the reality series based on the couple's life together are a long way from the simple beginnings and tender moments the family once knew. Gosselin shared private home videos with ABC News that captured the family in earlier, happier days.
Tune into "Primetime: Family Secrets" tonight at 10 p.m. ET for more Gosselin home video.
Now Jon and Kate live the life of parents with shared custody -- when it's his turn, Jon packs up his car and commutes from New York City to Pennsylvania to be with the kids. When he's with the kids she's not, and when she's with the kids he's not.
While they're still trying to iron out their routine, that hasn't stopped Jon from voicing some surprising feelings about Kate.
Their relationship has gotten to the point, he said, that the two have to shoot the show separately.
"We film it separately," Gosselin said. "She has her film crew. And I have my film crew. But I can't sit on the sofa with that woman. I can't sit on someone right now that I despise."
"I despise [her] because she's not speaking from the heart," he said. "Please -- the stuff you tell me in private should be the stuff you tell me on TV."
In a statement to ABC News, Kate Gosselin said she did believe in drawing a line between public and private.
"While I certainly have a very different perception of how our marriage dissolved, for the sake of my children I maintain that I'm not going to go into details of aspects I believe should remain private," Kate Gosselin said in the statement.
Gosselin said that at this point he believes his relationship with Kate is over.
"Our relationship will never be fixed," he said. "I think down the road we might be friends, but at this point in time I don't think so."
Gosselin explained why he thought Kate still wears her wedding band.
"I think she still wears the ring for public perception," he said. "I don't wear my ring because she took my ring. I don't have it.
"I don't have the ring," Gosselin said. "So I laid it down one night. It was gone. Who else would take it? I checked all the -- underneath my kids' pillows. That's where everything ends up in the house anyway. So it wasn't there.
Kate Gosselin declined to comment beyond her statement to ABC News.
Also in his interview with ABC, Gosselin discusses his relationship with 22-year-old girlfriend Hailey Glassman, the daughter of Kate's former plastic surgeon.