How Kate Winslet Believes Her Divorces Benefit Her Kids

— -- Kate Winslet has been divorced twice, but she's not scared that those experiences are going to negatively impact her children.

In fact, she said that it's taught them about struggle, which is a good thing.

"I would honestly say that I wouldn’t change a thing. Even all the bad bits," she told Harper's Bazaar U.K., as excerpted by the Telegraph newspaper. "They all matter, because those things shape who you are. And if you don’t like who you are, well, then you’re -------- really, aren’t you?"

The Oscar winner is now married to Ned RocknRoll, with whom she has a son, Bear, 1. She also has two children from her previous marriages, Mia, 14, and Joe, 11.

Because of her role as a mom, she said she's not focused on trying to get back to her pre-baby size.

"Life is just too short to be spending time focusing on things like that. I want to keep my health and my sanity and be well-fed and happy. I was nowhere near my pre-pregnancy shape when Bear was 12 weeks old -- I was breastfeeding, apart from anything else, and hungry all the time -- and nor would I have wanted to be," she said. "And, do you know what? My body will never go back to what it was, and I wouldn’t expect it to after three babies."

Speaking out on the subject is important, she said, so that women have more realistic expectations of their own bodies. Now 39, Winslet said she's learned to embrace her looks.

“What is so gorgeous about being the age I am is that all the ridiculous angst I might once have felt about having a bit of cellulite, or being a bit puffy in the face, or whatever, has evaporated," she said. "I simply can’t believe I ever spent any time wasting my life on that nonsense."