Divorce 101: Co-Parenting Experts Help Couples Like Jon and Kate Gosselin

Nash said he also likes having his parents around together, although it has put a damper on his mischievousness.

"With getting discipline and stuff I get in trouble a lot more because now they're paying attention and I get caught a lot more," Nash said, laughing.

Advice on Co-Parenting

Family therapist Terry Real said on "GMA" today that the Gosselins are making a mistake by airing their differences in public and that even those couples who can't attend a "divorce class" can separate without harming their children.

He said the mantra for divorcing couples should be "containment, containment, containment."

"Keep your raw feelings to yourself," he advised. When one parent criticizes the other in front of the children, it's "really cruel."

"It's terrible," he said. "It's a 'Sophie's Choice' for kids...You're putting your kid right in a loyalty bind."

Children that are being negatively impacted by divorcing parents often seem to become older or younger than they actually are.

"They can regress…or they can be like premature adults," Real said. "You want your kid to be a kid. Have their own feelings."

He offered four tips on co-parenting during a divorce:

1. Be respectful: Put your own feelings aside and remember that treating your ex well is the same as treating your child well.

2. Support your child's relationship with the other parent.

3. Consistently put your child first. It's not their fault.

4. Get some support yourself. The best gift you can give your kids is to be healthy.

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