"Some kids are going to have sex," she said. "We'd all like them to wait until they are mature, responsible, and in a monogamous and mutually loving relationship - -and the best we can do is to educate our kids in our own homes to make that a reality."
As for Singer, who wrote Provincetown's policy, she said she has "learned a lot" from what many locals say is a tempest in a teapot.
"It gave us an opportunity to relook at the policy with the eyes of a stranger and perhaps, as some in the community have suggested, clean it up," she said.
Singer said the board intends to make it clear that advice given by counselors will be "age appropriate" and "inclusive of families."
But the policy will stand, she said.
"We weren't expecting this, but it has given us the opportunity to tell what the real policy is," said Singer.
"A student has to initiate this, seek out a nurse or social worker who is professionally trained, to have a conversation in order to get a condom," said Singer. "It can be a teaching opportunity. You can go to a drugstore and buy a condom and not have that conversation."