Among other high-profile women who have ended marriages after learning of their husbands' infidelities, "Desperate Housewives" actress Eva Longoria, 35, filed for divorce from her husband of 3 years, three-time NBA All-Star Tony Parker, after learning that he had been sending romantic texts to the wife of a former teammate. Longoria, who began dating Parker in 2005, said she also learned that Parker, 28, a point guard with the San Antonio Spurs, had cheated earlier with a woman with whom he communicated on Facebook.
Actress Sandra Bullock filed for divorce in April 2010 from husband Jesse James, the tattooed host of TV's "Monster Garage," to whom she gushed "I love you so much" as she accepted a Golden Globe award for her role in "The Blind Side" three months earlier. The marriage failed after several women claimed to have had affairs with James, the owner of West Coast Choppers.
"I see it as such a sign of personal strength for these women to move on with their lives," Then said. "Once trust is broken, it is very difficult to forge ahead with a truly intimate marriage. Some couples do, but the man must stop the cheating and really apologize, and be ready to work hard to regain the trust of his wife. Some 'powerful men' scoff at this, and in that situation, it is best that the woman walks."
Then said that narcissists are incapable of the honesty and truth that are essential building blocks of a successful relationship, as well as the empathy that "would otherwise allow them to feel the pain they create for another person."
"I hope that 'real' women are empowered by seeing the actresses, and other women in the public eye, say 'enough is enough' to philandering men," Then said. But, she added, "it is important not to portray women who stay like doormats. Every woman faced with a cheating spouse faces emotional trauma, but every woman must decide for herself what she wants to do about her situation. It is often said that only the two people in the marriage know what really goes on. Now it seems that in so many cases of a cheating husband, only one person knows what is going on! It must be stressful for a philandering man to live with his secrets."