Although she tried desperately to find her husband work closer to home, Difalco said she wished she had done more to close the space the commute brought into her marriage.
"Looking back, I could have made more of an effort," she said. "It didn't occur to me to drive an hour and half to have lunch. But I should have done those kinds of things to bridge the gap."
She now lives with her kids in Vancouver, Wash. Anthony Difalco, who has since "consolidated his life," now lives 15 minutes from his office.
"The commute just puts so much space between you, it can be very difficult to have any overlap," Difalco said. "If there's nothing you can do in the short term," like relocate or change jobs, "my advice would be to make extra efforts to overlap the two worlds."