To make working at home work for our family, I’ve had to teach my kids a little more patience than I might have otherwise. If I’m in the middle of interviewing a doctor for an article, for example, my daughter may have to wait a few minutes for me to fix her a snack. It’s been a learning curve for all of us — for them to learn that sometimes, mama has to work — and for me, to not feel overwhelmingly guilty when I say, “can you hold on a minute, please?”
10) Always get up at night with the kids
This is perhaps my most shocking admission ever and I hesitated even putting it in here, but in the end, I decided it might help one other mother feel less guilty. Or maybe I really am a horrible mother. Either way, here it is: sometimes, if I hear the kids get up in the middle of the night, I don’t get up with them. I will wait a minute and listen if they are just using the restroom, or if they go to my husband’s side of the bed and ask specifically for Daddy (which they often do), I will stay warmly snuggled up. It’s horrible, I know, but I figure the scales have to balance out for almost four consecutive years of breastfeeding at night on my end, right?
11) Get out much
I try to plan at least one activity out of the house a week for all our sakes’, but in general, my kids and I don’t get out of the house much, especially when I’m breastfeeding a baby. It just feels like way too much work. Social time is usually time with family or play dates for the kids, and my biggest weekly excursion is generally my Sunday shop at the grocery store. Exciting stuff, I know.
So now you know the truth about how I “have it all.” Feel free to spill your own motherhood guts anytime and join me. Or I’ll just wait for the encouraging comments to pour in …
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