At issue is whether Ashford needs to set aside certain standards in order to make it down the aisle.
"I kind of have certain standards that I hold myself to, and I don't think I should have to settle on those for the sake of having somebody," she said.
Her parameters are pretty flexible. "I've dated unemployed men, men trying to find themselves, struggling artists and rich men, poor men," Ashford said.
She's also open to dating outside of her race. Indeed, the number of black women entering interracial marriages has more than doubled in the past decade.
"Last night, I was at a restaurant and had a great conversation with a Caucasian man," she said. "I mean we were vibing, we were clicking and I am thinking at the end of the night he's going to ask me for my number, because white men never ask for my number, and he said. 'Great conversation, maybe I will see you around.' And I was thinking, 'What happened?'"
Melinda Watson is a 28-year-old payroll specialist who hasn't had an exclusive relationship since college.
"We are maybe not as coveted as black men in society," she said. "I just feel there is a lot of taboo that is associated with dating black women, because I don't think they are necessarily ready to take us home to see momma."
The consensus in this group was that their preference is to marry a black man. And it's not that they can't find one to date. The issue, in many cases, is exclusivity.
"You meet these great guys, you have a good relationship, and then it is like, 'I'm going to keep you around, and hopefully when I am ready to settle down, you'll be there,'" Ashford said.
Waters said, "That is the back-pocket girl. Every once in a while, they will check in on you to make sure you are still single: 'You still single, you still waiting on me?'"
Waters hasn't been in a committed relationship in more a decade. "I have my emotional moments where I cry, where I sit and I think, 'Could I have done something differently?'" she said.
"I get lonely, but in that same vein the hurt I felt, and no peace, being in a situation I knew wasn't right for me. I am more at peace with just crying myself to sleep sometimes, or going everywhere with Jakene [Ashford], rather than just having that little piece of a man."
Marchand speculated on underlying causes.
"It may be the numbers," she said, "It may be the options, it may be them realizing the disparity is there and saying, 'Well, let me just test the waters and see what the options are.'"
Waters said, "If you have four quality women in rotation, who is going to rush into a marriage?"
Harvey, the self-proclaimed expert on men, listen in as the single ladies talked about their requirements.
"I had a list of about 50 things that I would keep in my Bible," Waters said. "It is now down to about 10."
"Honesty," Ashford said.
"Supportive," Watson said.
"Financially stable," Waters said.
"Now granted, I am 31, so he needs to be at a certain stage," Marchand said.
"We need to be able to pray together," Waters said.
As for the deal breakers, Watson said, "Just because of my past -- men with kids or just not being ambitious."
Ashford said, "If I don't have that initial chemistry, it's not going to work, I don't care if you have everything on the list."
Marchand said, "I am not going to talk to you if I'm not attracted to you."
Harvey's first reaction was not, technically, advice.