Reporter's Notebook: Mother's Day in America

Our society should expect more of its men. Many women should demand more in their relationships, and families and communities should do a better job of protecting women in our midst.

If a women is in an abusive relationship, she should be encouraged and supported to leave, not to stay and work it out. Police departments should take allegations of abuse, both physical and emotional, more seriously. These men should be put on watch lists in neighborhoods because as we have learned, it isn't a huge step from abuse of women to potential sociopath. And if celebrities or politicians mistreat women, then they should be prosecuted, shunned and ceremoniously forgotten about.

And economically, we don't treat women and mothers in the most respectful fashion. Women still are not given equal pay for equal work. The major portion of caretaking and mothering in our culture is done by women as nurses, teachers, day care providers, cooks, housekeepers, and we don't pay these folks near the value they provide, or give them the respect they deserve.

My mom was a summa cum laude graduate of a prestigious Jesuit University and a public school teacher, but when she made the decision to stay home and raise her 11 children, she sadly lost the respect of many people in her community.

And our system to support single moms who day in and day out try to balance their lives along with caring for children is not nearly as adequate as it needs to be. Our system of child support and health care has not kept pace with a changing economy and financial situation of the 21st century.

Being twice divorced myself, I have seen the tremendous sacrifices my children's moms have had to make to raise healthy and happy children, and I salute and have huge respect for them for this.

And so on this Mothers Day, let us pause and evaluate how society, but more importantly, each one of us, treats the people who do most of the mothering -- women who have children and those who do not, and try to create a better support system that honors the most needed role in today's world.

And maybe through increased respect for all the mothers, we will begin to celebrate again the divine feminine, which has been lost for generations.

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