Are More Older Women With Younger Men?

"When she arrived I realized she was two years younger than me. I went running to the closet to put some tie-dye on," Drescher said.

For trickier situations, Gibson has written what might be called the official Cougar handbook, titled: "Cougar: A Guide for Older Women Dating Younger Men."

"I tend to see myself as a sort of cheerleader for cougars -- the sort of Queen Cougar teaching young cougar tricks," she said.

The age question comes up often, Gibson said. She advises most cougars not to tell.

"They all have an immediate picture -- let's say a 60-year-old woman: gray hair in a bun, apron on, cooking cookies."

Appropriate Behavior

The biggest hurdle for May-December relationships, Gibson said, is the cougar's lack of interest in, or inability to have a baby.

"If he wants children then it's short term, because he will go off to have his children at some point and you should allow that or even send him off to do it," she said.

And for people who would condemn the cougar's behavior as creepy or inappropriate, she said "I don't see these condemnations as valid.

"I do see them as only aimed at women -- putting down older women and trying to control them," she said. "No way."

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