When Greaves spoke to ABCNews.com Wednesday, he said that his critics are misunderstanding the point of his book.
"They're accusing me of wanting to hurt children, said Greaves, 47, a former nurse's aide who retired because of a disability. "They're accusing me of encouraging pedophilia and all these other things. But that's not why I wrote the book."
"I wrote the book," he said, "to establish guidelines so that people would behave in a manner that is non-injurious to each other, for one, and, for two, to communicate the fact that these people who are so different in maturation, etc., that when they develop relationships, they use certain principles that regular people, adults, would be well to attend."
Though Greaves said he was not encouraging pedophilia through his book, he pointed to the case of Mary Kay Letourneau, the Washington state teacher who had an affair with her student, as evidence it is possible "to have a loving, sexual relationship with a child."
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While the book was written from the perspective of an adult, Greaves emphasized that he was not speaking from personal experience as a pedophile.
"The only personal perspective it was written from was that I was introduced to sex at the age of 7 by a 10-year-old girl," he said. "It was oral sex. And I carried on through that, having that kind of sex with children until I was about 15. ... And everybody involved enjoyed it."
When asked why he wrote a "code of conduct" that appears to endorse an illegal, abusive act, he said, "I'm not saying I want them around children; I'm saying if they're there, that's how I want them to behave."
Before Amazon stopped selling Greaves' book, more than 3,000 customers left comments on Amazon's site, most protesting the controversial book.
"As a mother of a child who has been molested, shame on Amazon for allowing such garbage to be sold on its site," wrote "thirtysomething."
"The author of this book is a predator and should never have been allowed to write or promote this trash that is called a book of information. How many children will be assaulted because of this? Amazon--take it off your site."