Irish Pubs for Dummies: Drinking Etiquette

Sept. 27, 2009 — -- The pub is the center of the Irish social universe. It's much more than just a drinking place - it's where families mark births, deaths, birthdays and Christenings, and where sports fans come to cheer on their teams. Many an Irish couple first met one another in the pub.

When tourists come to Ireland, they often spend a lot of their time in pubs - so the possibilities for pub etiquette misunderstandings are endless. There are a number of practices to be aware of. With this in mind, Irish Central has come up with a guide to pub etiquette, to help avoid red faces all round!

Rounds Culture

If you're out with Irish people in Ireland, you'll certainly be offered a drink as one person usually goes to the bar for everyone. This is called "getting your round in." But be warned: that offer is on the unspoken condition that you return the favor.

The problem is that no-one will remind you when it's your turn. And if you forget to get your round in, people will start talking about what an asshole you are behind your back.

This story illustrates the point. A few years back a new guy, Seamus, started at my brother's company. During his first week on the job, Seamus went out for drinks with his new colleagues. He thought they were all being very generous buying him drinks all round. The following morning, word had gotten out that Seamus didn't buy his round. From there on in, his future prospects were dimmed.

The moral of story? Probably the worst thing you can do in a pub in Ireland (aside from singing a few bars of "God Save the Queen") is shirking from the responsibility of rounds.

Do this once, and it will take years to redeem yourself. When it comes to drinks – and indeed most things – the Irish have long memories. (Even if these memories are somewhat unreliable, dulled as they are by alcohol.)

Which would explain why Seamus is still floundering in middle management.

Couples are TWO Units!

An important point for couples to note: just because you are together, and you love one another very much, doesn't mean you are a single entity when it comes to drinking. (Unless of course, you are sharing the same drink.) For the purposes of rounds you are two, distinct people. Meaning you both, not just the boyfriend, have to get a round in.