"I'm not really one of those persons that says what's supposed to be the norm," she said. "I mean, I can see what's supposed to be the norm and I recognize it, but there's so many things in life that don't really don't fall into that norm."
Tina Tessina, a southern California psychotherapist, said that adults in relationships with children and teens often by nature are "narcissistic," a characteristic that prevents them from seeing what's wrong with their behavior.
"Most of us say, 'Oh my God, I've got to get this in control,'" Tessina said. "They don't. They look for ways to justify it because they can't control it anyway. It looks OK from their skewed viewpoint."
While it may be normal for teens to experiment with different behavior in front of adults, Tessina said adults who enter into relationship with teens fail to live up to what most consider "adult responsibility."