How Not to Treat Women, by Bob Filner

PHOTO: Mayor Bob Filner of San Diego speaks at a press conference announcing his intention to seek professional help for sexual harassment issues July 26, 2013 in San Diego, California.
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San Diego Mayor Bob Filner is in deep trouble. Today, he's beginning a two-week behavioral therapy session at an undisclosed location after being accused of sexually harassing women for almost a decade.

The Democrat has faced pressure from party leaders to resign and his own city even sued him to force him to bear the costs for his counseling.

So far, ten women have come forward to make allegations against him. Just think of the following accusations as Filner's own personal list of what not to do to another person, particularly a woman.

PHOTO: San Diego Mayoral candidate Donna Frye speaks to the press before voting at the Clairemont Covenant Church November 8, 2005 in San Diego, California.
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Don't "Forcibly Kiss" Women, or Grope Them

Filner is accused by three former supporters of forcibly kissing two constituents and groping the butt and breast of a staff member, according to The Los Angeles Times.

At a press conference on July 15 Donna Frye, a former city councilwoman and supporter of Filner, said that the mayor is "tragically unsafe for any women to approach."

Laura Fink is a political consultant who formerly worked for Filner. She stepped forward with similar allegations on July 23, telling KPBS News that Filner -- then a congressman -- patted her butt during a fundraiser in 2005.

Morgan Rose, a psychologist in the San Diego Unified School District, also accused Filner of trying to kiss her four times at a public restaurant in 2009.

Basically, Filner is accused of doing all the stuff you shouldn't do to people who work for you, friends, possible friends, women near you, and women who may come near you.

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Don't Sext Other Women in Front of Your Fiancee

Filner's ex-fiancee Bronwyn Ingram said that she broke off her relationship with Filner over a "severe deterioration in Bob's ability to engage with anyone in a civil manner" This, included her.

On July 15, Ingram accused Filner of sending sexually explicit messages to other women while in her presence, even setting up dates with some of them, according to KPBS. Ingram also says that during a recent trip to Paris, Filner screamed at her in public without provocation.

Note to guys: this is what we call hubris.

Ingram called on Filner to leave office, saying in a statement that "the work of the people and for the people has ceased. I therefore urge Bob to put the best interest of the people of San Diego first and submit his resignation."

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Don't Order Your Employees to Work Without Underwear

Irene McCormack Jackson, Filner's former communications director, alleges in a lawsuit that the mayor suggested, "Wouldn't it be great if you took off your panties and worked without them on?"

The lawsuit makes numerous other allegations against Filner, including that he tried to kiss McCormack and put her in a headlock.

Filner denied the accusations.

"I do not believe these claims are valid," he said in a statement, according to the AP. "That is why due process is so important. I intend to defend myself vigorously and I know that justice will prevail."

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Don't Put Women in Headlocks

Several other women beside McCormack recall Filner putting them in a headlock. In fact, the move even had its own name, according to accusers ("the Filner headlock").

San Diego businesswoman Patti Roscoe recalled being subjected to Filner's patented move.

"And on numerous occasions, he put in me what I guess now is the famous headlock; and I felt fearful, even as well as I knew him, because it was an invasion into my space," Roscoe told KPBS. "And he would come in and try to kiss me on the lips and I'd have to squirm to get away."

On July 25, Filner responded, telling reporters, "I'd like the city to take a deep breath."

"There are allegations and allegations of allegations," he continued. "Let us get this into a process where everybody, including myself, has a way to make a fair statement, to talk about their view of things and there's an impartial investigation and discovery."

One day later, Filner would announce he would enter a two-week behavioral counseling program to "begin the process of addressing my behavior," according to the AP.

Filner added that his his "failure to respect women, and the intimidating contact, is inexcusable."

The mayor began his therapy program today.

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Don't Hit On Women at Church

On the day that Filner began his therapy, even more shocking allegations emerged.

Renee Estill-Sombright, a bank employee and singer, ran into Filner after she sung the national anthem in June at a church fundraiser in La Jolla to benefit African refugees.

She alleges that Filner made unwanted advances at her.

"Oh you're so beautiful, you're so beautiful," Filner said to Estill-Sombright, she told the San Diego Union-Tribune. "I want to take you out. This is a private invite, not a social invite."

We don't think that private meet-up will happen any time soon.

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