Why Goldie Hawn Never Married Kurt Russell

PHOTO: Goldie Hawn and actor Kurt Russell attend the Mattel Childrens Hospital UCLA Kaleidoscope Ball at 3LABS, May 2, 2015, in Culver City, Calif.PlayJason LaVeris/FilmMagic/Getty Images
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Goldie Hawn has been together with Kurt Russell for more than three decades, but the two have never tied the knot.

In an interview with Porter magazine, the 69-year old actress said the relationship itself is more important than taking vows.

“A lasting relationship isn’t about marriage," she said. "It’s about compatibility and communication. And you both need to want it to work. If one person does not want it to work, it isn’t going to work. Intention is the key. It’s also about not losing yourself in each other. Being together, two pillars holding up the house and the roof, and being different, not having to agree on everything, learning how to deal with not agreeing. Everything’s a choice.”

The '60s icon said what the two "care about" is a healthy family unit, including her children with Kurt and from previous relationships -- Kate Hudson, Oliver Hudson and Wyatt Russell. Kurt also has a son Boston from a relationship before Hawn.

"(Kurt Russell) came from three sisters and a very strong family unit. I came from one sister and two parents and a big family unit," she said. "That’s what we care about. We talked about relationships and commonality early on. We had nannies, there’s no doubt about it. We’ve both been working. But we were very present with our children. It’s the same way we grew up. I had a working mother, Kurt did not. My mother was right there.”

The former ingénue is still stunning heading into her 70's, but says, "Getting older is a fact of life."

"By living mindfully you understand that there are many transitions in life. You just go through them. But it’s wonderful to know you’re aging, because that means you’re still on the planet, right?" she said. "It’s all about how you make it. It’s all in your mind."

Porter magazine hit stands on June 5.