Real-Life, Sperm-Donor Siblings Find Each Other

Ryan Kramer, 20, finds his sperm-donor father and six half-siblings.

ByABC News via logo
July 27, 2010, 8:51 AM

July 27, 2010— -- Ryan Kramer is not a typical 20 year old. He graduated from high school at 14, has already earned a master's degree in engineering and will start working this fall at NASA as a rocket scientist.

But growing up with an incredible intellect wasn't the only thing that made him different from other kids.

"I was told I was donor-conceived at a very young age ... as I got older I became more curious about that half of my DNA," Kramer of Nederland, Colo., said.

With mom Wendy's approval, Kramer set off on a mission to find his sperm-donor dad.

"I didn't need a father ... what I wanted was to just see a picture of him or have a conversation," he said, adding that he was looking for answers more than anything else.

An estimated 35,000 to 60,000 babies of sperm donors are born every year, and a growing number of the children want to meet not only their donor fathers but also their half-brothers and -sisters.

The plotline is playing out across America and on the silver screen, in one of the summer's most critically acclaimed movies, "The Kids Are All Right," starring Annette Benning and Julianne Moore. It follows the lives of two kids who go in search of their sperm-donor father.

Kramer's real-life journey began on "Good Morning America" in 2002 when the 12-year-old read a note he penned to his local sperm bank.

"I would like some information about my father, even a phone number," he said on "GMA."

"I felt it was my responsibility to help him get the answers he was looking for, but there was no where to look, there was no one to help us out," Wendy Kramer said. "That's why we started the DSR [Donor Sibling Registry]."

The Donor Sibling Registry is a website with 30,000 members. It unites donors, their children and their siblings, through identification numbers.New connections are made everyday, but uniting donor families can be difficult because the federal government provides little oversight. Also, there's no tracking of the number of children a single sperm donor can have, which many men are not aware of when they donate.

"I have donors that come to my site all the time and say, 'Wait a minute, I just came to your website and I see that I have 22 children. How can this be? The sperm bank promised I would have no more than 10,'" Wendy Kramer said.