-- "Good Morning America" is launching a nationwide search for a 21st century Advice Guru.
This is a full time, on-air position at "GMA." You could sit next to George and Robin and be a part of the "GMA" Team!
Over the next few weeks, we'll be featuring some of your entries on the website.
Check out this one from Megan Hacker of South Lebanon, Ohio.
What's the best advice you have ever given? What was the result?
My cousin was dating a man for the past few years who kept giving her the run-around. He would get close to her and her kids when he felt like he was being the "hero" but then would back away when the acclaim faded. Knowing that the only two people who know what a relationship is like behind closed doors are the two people in the relationship, I was hesitant to give her advice. It's her life and who am I to tell her what to do. So when asked, I asked her a simple question. "Is how you are being treated by him the way you would want Jessica (her daughter) to be treated." Her answer of course was "no" and so I then asked her, "then why is it okay for you?" After that I think things were put into perspective for her. She was able to have the strength to put that relationship behind her after she thought of the example she was setting for her daughter. Sometimes its easier to be strong for someone we love than for ourselves. I was proud of this advice because I didn't tell her what to, even though I wanted to, and she came to the conclusion I was hoping she would get to on her own.
What would you tell his person: "Whenever there is an issue between my mother-in-law and me, my husband refuses to stand up for me. How do I get him to value our relationship more than the one with his mother?
First of all, I don't think you should be trying to get your husband to value you more than his mother. This shouldn't be a competition. There should be enough room in his heart to love both of you, in different ways. A mother and child have a special bond that is unique from that of a husband and wife. If he feels that you are trying to drive a wedge between him and his mother, it may bring up that protective son instinct. Instead, I would try to leave him out of any issues you are having with his mother. You are both adults and should be able to work things out on your own. When it comes to the mother, try your best to see things from her point of view. No matter how old he gets, this is still her baby and you, in a way, have taken him away. Try being forward with her and saying exactly that. That you know it must be hard for her and that you are open to talking about any issues she might have with you, but out of respect for her son, you'd like to be able to work things out without involving him. If she is still being unreasonable, at least your husband will have seen how mature you are being and how much you are trying to have a relationship with his mother. This should do nothing but help him to have more admiration and respect for you.
What would you tell this person: "While cleaning my son's room, I accidentally saw on his Facebook page threatening remarks from his friends. I fear he's being bullied. What should I do?"
Ask him! He is your child and if you think something is happening that could hurt him, don't let it keep building. He may be mad at you for seeing his "private" comments but you should be able to be honest about how you saw them. Its not as if you broke into his apartment and got on his computer. This is a room in your house and you have every right to be looking at comments that are up on a computer screen that you most likely bought. The small amount of resentment he will have for you seeing his Facebook page will be nothing in comparison to the relief he will feel if he is finally able to tell someone he's being bullied. Open communication is key. If he denies any bullying, then ask what those comments were about. Let him know how much you love him and that you are concerned about him. Then make him clean his own room. If he is old enough to have a Facebook page, he is old enough to clean up after himself.
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What would you tell this person: "My boss keeps taking credit for my ideas. What should I do?"
First of all, make sure to document all of your ideas just in case you ever need to prove that they were yours in the first place. Then, without being confrontational (because this IS your boss), simply ask him/her about it. "Do you remember when I came up with ABC project idea? I was just wondering you told everyone that was your idea?" If your boss tries to play it off like he/she has no idea what you are talking about after you have given all of your examples, it may be time to go to the next higher level. But, be prepared, once you cross that line, there is no going back. Sometimes coming up with an idea at work doesn't mean you will get the credit. It will just be for the good of the company, but if your ideas are helping to advance someone else instead of yourself, it may be worth it to you to voice your concerns to your boss's boss. Personally, I think you should be up front with your boss about your plan instead of going behind his/her back. If you've documented everything like you should've, you'll have no trouble proving your point.
Being the "advice guru" for Good Morning America is a natural fit for me. I consider myself an all-American girl and who better to be part of your team, than someone who represents the next generation of Americans. I am an opinionated, free-thinker, who has an appreciation for all types of people. I am currently on a year-long RV trip to visit all 50 states and have been giving advice as I go to people I have met along the way. It never fails, but for some reason people seem to feel comfortable enough to share their problems with me and respect the advice I give them. I think this is partly because I don't judge them and the other part because of the confidence I exude when giving my opinion on any given situation. This confidence comes because I think before I speak. I listen first, ask questions to get to the root of the problem, and then offer my advice. I wasn't formally educated in this area. I'm simply an honest, down-to-earth woman who used to stay late after babysitting jobs to listen to the parents problems, still gets midnight phone calls from friends about boyfriend issues, and even has strangers open up to her. The people I have been meeting on this roadtrip and the experiences I've had are only giving me more depth into all different types of people that we have in this country. You can see more about me and my trip at www.alittlemoretolife.com. Thanks for your consideration.