-- "Good Morning America" is launching a nationwide search for a 21st century Advice Guru.
This is a full time, on-air position at "GMA." You could sit next to George and Robin and be a part of the "GMA" Team!
Over the next few weeks, we'll be featuring some of your entries on the website.
Check out this one from Megan Hacker of South Lebanon, Ohio.
What's the best advice you have ever given? What was the result?
My cousin was dating a man for the past few years who kept giving her the run-around.He would get close to her and her kids when he felt like he was being the "hero" but thenwould back away when the acclaim faded. Knowing that the only two people who knowwhat a relationship is like behind closed doors are the two people in the relationship, I washesitant to give her advice. It's her life and who am I to tell her what to do. So whenasked, I asked her a simple question. "Is how you are being treated by him the way youwould want Jessica (her daughter) to be treated." Her answer of course was "no" and so Ithen asked her, "then why is it okay for you?" After that I think things were put intoperspective for her. She was able to have the strength to put that relationship behind herafter she thought of the example she was setting for her daughter. Sometimes its easierto be strong for someone we love than for ourselves. I was proud of this advice because Ididn't tell her what to, even though I wanted to, and she came to the conclusion I washoping she would get to on her own.
What would you tell his person: "Whenever there is an issue between my mother-in-law and me, my husband refuses to stand up for me. How do I get him to value our relationship more than the one with his mother?
First of all, I don't think you should be trying to get your husband to value you more thanhis mother. This shouldn't be a competition. There should be enough room in his heart tolove both of you, in different ways. A mother and child have a special bond that is uniquefrom that of a husband and wife. If he feels that you are trying to drive a wedge betweenhim and his mother, it may bring up that protective son instinct. Instead, I would try toleave him out of any issues you are having with his mother. You are both adults andshould be able to work things out on your own. When it comes to the mother, try yourbest to see things from her point of view. No matter how old he gets, this is still her babyand you, in a way, have taken him away. Try being forward with her and saying exactlythat. That you know it must be hard for her and that you are open to talking about anyissues she might have with you, but out of respect for her son, you'd like to be able towork things out without involving him. If she is still being unreasonable, at least yourhusband will have seen how mature you are being and how much you are trying to have arelationship with his mother. This should do nothing but help him to have more admirationand respect for you.
What would you tell this person: "While cleaning my son's room, I accidentally saw on his Facebook page threatening remarks from his friends. I fear he's being bullied. What should I do?"
Ask him! He is your child and if you think something is happening that could hurt him,don't let it keep building. He may be mad at you for seeing his "private" comments but youshould be able to be honest about how you saw them. Its not as if you broke into hisapartment and got on his computer. This is a room in your house and you have everyright to be looking at comments that are up on a computer screen that you most likelybought. The small amount of resentment he will have for you seeing his Facebook pagewill be nothing in comparison to the relief he will feel if he is finally able to tell someonehe's being bullied. Open communication is key. If he denies any bullying, then ask whatthose comments were about. Let him know how much you love him and that you areconcerned about him. Then make him clean his own room. If he is old enough to have aFacebook page, he is old enough to clean up after himself.
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What would you tell this person: "My boss keeps taking credit for my ideas. What should I do?"
First of all, make sure to document all of your ideas just in case you ever need to provethat they were yours in the first place. Then, without being confrontational (because thisIS your boss), simply ask him/her about it. "Do you remember when I came up with ABCproject idea? I was just wondering you told everyone that was your idea?" If your bosstries to play it off like he/she has no idea what you are talking about after you have givenall of your examples, it may be time to go to the next higher level. But, be prepared, onceyou cross that line, there is no going back. Sometimes coming up with an idea at workdoesn't mean you will get the credit. It will just be for the good of the company, but if yourideas are helping to advance someone else instead of yourself, it may be worth it to you tovoice your concerns to your boss's boss. Personally, I think you should be up front withyour boss about your plan instead of going behind his/her back. If you've documentedeverything like you should've, you'll have no trouble proving your point.
Being the "advice guru" for Good Morning America is a natural fit for me. I considermyself an all-American girl and who better to be part of your team, than someone whorepresents the next generation of Americans. I am an opinionated, free-thinker, who hasan appreciation for all types of people. I am currently on a year-long RV trip to visit all 50states and have been giving advice as I go to people I have met along the way. It neverfails, but for some reason people seem to feel comfortable enough to share their problemswith me and respect the advice I give them. I think this is partly because I don't judgethem and the other part because of the confidence I exude when giving my opinion on anygiven situation. This confidence comes because I think before I speak. I listen first, askquestions to get to the root of the problem, and then offer my advice. I wasn't formallyeducated in this area. I'm simply an honest, down-to-earth woman who used to stay lateafter babysitting jobs to listen to the parents problems, still gets midnight phone calls fromfriends about boyfriend issues, and even has strangers open up to her. The people I havebeen meeting on this roadtrip and the experiences I've had are only giving me more depthinto all different types of people that we have in this country. You can see more about meand my trip at www.alittlemoretolife.com. Thanks for your consideration.