Oct. 12, 2010 -- "Good Morning America" is launching a nationwide search for a 21st century Advice Guru.
This is a full time, on-air position at "GMA." You could sit next to George and Robin and be a part of the "GMA" Team!
Over the next few weeks, we'll be featuring some of your entries on the website.
Check out this one from Olivia Templeton of North Las Vegas, Nevada.
What's the best advice you have ever given? What was the result?
I think the best advice I've ever given was to give no advice at all. Sometimes there are those situations where someone just wants you to listen to them. Deep within themselves, they already know what they need to do, they just need to get their thoughts out there. And sometimes, instead of advice, a troubled person just needs to know that they have your support, no matter what decision they make and that the only person who they should be listening to is themselves. I've had to deal with my grown children in both of these ways. It's hard but sometimes no matter how much you might want to help with your advice, there are situations where it's better not to say anything at all and just be there for them.
What would you tell his person: "Whenever there is an issue between my mother-in-law and me, my husband refuses to stand up for me. How do I get him to value our relationship more than the one with his mother?
I would tell this person that she should not be expecting her husband to take sides. Because the relationship he has with his mom is on a different level than their marital relationship. They should not be competitive or compared with each other. Plus more than likely, the husband probably doesn't want to get stuck in the middle of their battles. No matter what side he takes, someone will be angry with him. And he really shouldn't have to be put in that position. What HE NEEDS to do, is to sit both his wife and mother down together and calmly tell them that he loves them both but he will not tolerate any demeaning comments from either one towards the other any longer. If they have nothing nice to say about each other, don't say anything at all and that each is to mind their own business. He also needs to explain that he will make time for both, more time of course for his family, especially if there are children and that they will come first, unless of an emergency, but he will also make time in his schedule to help his mom with tasks, chores or errands that she may need his help with. The wife and mother both need to understand that each of them has a place in his life and he needs to make it very clear to his mom that he is married now and that his wife and children are now his immediate family and they have priority in his life and she needs to accept that and the wife needs to accept the fact that he will be making time his mother as well. If the mother and wife can't accept these terms, then it is just too bad for either one. That's the way it's going to be, take it or leave it. Hopefully that will be the end of that!
What would you tell this person: "While cleaning my son's room, I accidentally saw on his Facebook page threatening remarks from his friends. I fear he's being bullied. What should I do?"
I would get a close male adult friend, who has a good head on his shoulders and a good temperament, preferably, some one who your son looks up to and have him sit down with your son to have a casual chat about things going on in your sons' life. Maybe start off with talk about sports or something your son is interested in and eventually get around to school bullies and any problems he may be having and why the son may think the reason is for his friends bullying him. Without knowing the exact reason why he's being bullied, it would be hard to come up with a solution. But by having a close male friend talk to him, you'll probably get a better insight to whats going on with him, more than if you had tried to talk to him. Kids, many times don't tell their parents about problems out of embarrassment or fear that their parents will do something that will only make the situation worse for the kid.
'Dear GMA': Featured Submission
What would you tell this person: "My boss keeps taking credit for my ideas. What should I do?"
I would tell him or her to quit telling their boss about their ideas. Instead, if they get a chance to casually run into their bosses' boss, then to take the opportunity to just say " oh, by the way, I kind of had this idea that might be helpful". Depending on the big bosses' reaction, if he seems interested or open to hearing it, then tell him your idea. That way your immediate boss won't have a chance to take credit for your ideas and the big boss gets to hear your idea directly from you and you did it in a way where you can't be accused of running to the big boss to tell him your ideas because you did it in a way where you "CASUALLY" ran into him.
I feel I would make a good advice guru because I am an open minded person and try to listen to what someone is telling me. I do my best not to be judgemental about what they're telling me. Sometimes it's not so easy, especially if I'm closely connected to that person. I'm a 53 year old woman who has gone through my share of ups and downs, (a lot of downs), in my life, I do feel that because of my life experiences, I have been able to grow in an open and honest and some what wise way, that has allowed me a certain amount of insight to help others when they may ask for my advice or opinion.