Dating Poses Grave Risks for Allergic Teens
For teenagers with severe food allergies, a kiss can be deadly.
April 25, 2008 — -- Victoria Richards was ready to spend Sunday -- date day -- with her boyfriend. He was nice, funny and he had the bluest blue eyes. That afternoon, as they sat together on her porch, he leaned in for a kiss, and Richards leaned back.
"What have you eaten today?" she asked him.
Inquiring about a date's food intake could kill the romantic mood, but the question is a familiar one to people who have severe allergies. A kiss can be deadly if your loved one has eaten a food to which you are allergic. And for teenagers in particular, an allergy can add yet another degree of difficulty in the dating arena.
"He got kind of freaked out," said Richards, 16, who has a fatal nut allergy. "I was definitely looking out for myself on that one because I did like him a lot."
Having a severe food allergy can be like dealing with the possibility of a terrorist attack, according to Lisa Provost, a licensed mental health counselor at Integrity, Psychological Counseling in Indiana.
"In unexpected places, things can pop up," Provost said. "The challenge is, they need to be vigilant."
But being vigilant about a food allergy can be frustrating when it prevents someone from enjoying things most people take for granted. For Ross Peterson, 15, listing his allergies, which include milk, peanuts and tree nuts, can seem like dating caveats.
"That's the hardest part," Peterson said. "I feel obligated to tell [girls] before I ask them out."
The problem is compounded because an allergic person needs a strong sense of confidence and the ability to assert his or her needs in order to stay safe in any environment, skills that teenagers are still developing.
"It's a difficult icebreaker to say, Please don't eat peanuts or, I can't kiss you if you have that milkshake," said Dr. Robert Wood, director of Pediatric Allergy and Immunology at the Johns Hopkins Children's Center. "Once couples become couples, everything gets much easier. … The more comfortable they get with someone they're friends with or dating, the easier it is."
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