Some critics argue that children of gay parents have more difficulty in schools, but Martin said the onus should be on the schools to make sure they are supportive of all children.
"Schools have to be sensitized and speak inclusively about varieties of families. They need to provide structures to protect those who are teased, which is bad, whether it's about two moms or wearing eyeglasses."
Martin, the author of "Lesbian and Gay Parenting," said research shows that even sexual identification is not compromised in children of gay parents.
"Kids are going to be who they are," she said. "They will have role models and they don't have to be in the family. I know many sons raised by lesbians who grow up to be men who identify with men."
Meanwhile, Ford credits his mother with his designer eye and professional success. His fan club wryly reports that he was "raised by a colorful southern lady who had six husbands and a cupboard full of Courreges suits. She taught him that being badly dressed was disrespectful of others. He spent most of his childhood worrying about how he looked. At 12, she bought him a pair of Gucci loafers."
Still, Ford says what he really wants is a baby.
"Richard knows I've wanted this for a long time," he told Fantastic Man. "He's just resisted it. He would be a spectacular father. It's going to give his life new meaning. It will be biologically mine. I mean, I'm a lot younger. If things follow their natural order, [Richard will] probably leave the planet ahead of me, and I can't not have had something I've wanted forever."