Once a taboo topic, sexless marriages are getting more attention, in part because so many couples are complaining about the lack of sexual activity in their unions, according to one gynecologist.
It's an epidemic, Dr. Hilda Hutcherson said.
In a sexless marriage, couples only are sexually intimate 10 or fewer times a year.
"Sex is essential for a great marriage, and the reason is there are a number of chemicals and hormones that are released when you have sex with your partner that actually bonds couples," Hutcherson said.
"We're not cherishing each other and loving each other, I mean, even without the sex, you have to love the person," Ginny said.
She longs for the intimacy and love the pair had when they first said, "I do."
"Things started to change, I think when our kids became teenagers. And I noticed more stress in our life," she said. "We actually had a lot of arguments, and were actually in separate bedrooms."
"That's when things really slowed down," Ginny said.
But even after the children left the nest the Nestlerodes' sex life didn't improve.
"Now it's kind of like 'every once in a while we might have sex,'" said Jon.
That once in a while translates to somewhere between once every three or four months, according to the couple.
Demanding careers and hobbies also impeded the couple's attempts to get closer.
Ginny's late working hours and Jon's train pastime didn't leave much time left over for the two of them.
The pair also sat down with a family therapist, Terry Real, author of "The New Rules of Marriage," for a reality check.
"I think the level of importance and appreciation falls off," Jon said in the session. "I think work with Ginny — she can be on the phone till the evening … I know she's not coming to bed for a while."
Ginny too complained of her husband's late hours, and said she didn't like the fact that he is often asked to work weekends. She also dislikes the amount of time he spends on his train hobby.
"When I go to bed at 10, he could come to bed and not play with his trains," she said.
Real determined neither nor Jon felt "cherished."
"I feel like everything else is a priority and our relationship is down there," Jon said.
Real suggested the couple tries cutting household expenses to cut back on Jon Nestlerode working on Saturdays.
"That worked quite well," he said. "I need to be more romantic, most definitely. I know that."
"You don't feel romantic if you're not appreciated. And I think Ginny perhaps feels the same way," Jon Nestlerode said.
The pair now goes to bed at the same time, which allows for more private time together, and each tries to give affirmations more openly.
Jon Nestlerode also has made a real effort to help around the house.