From Darfur to Martha's Vineyard

Nov. 21, 2010— -- Lana and Munawar Kabashi of Darfur remember the killers -- Arab militias called the Janjaweed -- riding into their village on horseback and shooting, burning, and destroying the homes and massacring the villagers.

In the confusion, they were separated from their five year old daughter Muna, but managed to escape with two other daughters and their first-born son Mustafa.

As they fled the genocide in Darfur, 3-month-old Mustafa died of starvation. But their nightmare was just beginning.

In 2005, the Janjaweed found them and captured the father, Munawar, imprisoning and torturing him for nearly a year before he escaped and found his family again.

Thus began a biblical trek to safety. They made their way across Sudan to Kenya, fleeing from one refugee camp to another. Over the next few years they had two more children.

In 2007 they arrived at a sprawling refugee camp in Kenya called Kakuma, but the children grew sick and once again they felt threatened.

Finally, in desperation, they fled again, ending up in the urban slum areas of Nairobi.

It was in Nairobi that the refugee organization RefugePoint (formerly Mapendo International) heard about the Kabashi family from another refugee.

"He said this family is really desperate," says Sasha Chanoff, executive director and founder of RefugePoint. "They're sick. They don't have any blankets. They don't' have any mattresses. They don't have any food."

Lana Kabashi was also pregnant at the time.

The RefugePoint staff sent an urgent request for money to help the family, and within days, their prayers were answered. In a chance meeting on a train, Chanoff sat next to Kristi Maynard of Martha's Vineyard.

"When I met Kristi, she said I can't believe I'm meeting you now," Chanoff says. "I've been thinking about Darfur and what's been happening there for years. ... And now here you are in front of me telling me that I can do something to help one family."

Maynard did more than that. She was so moved by the struggles of the Kabashi family and other refugees she immediately wrote a $10,000 check to RefugePoint.

"I received a photograph of [the family] holding my photograph when they were still back in Nairobi, and I have been smiling ever since," Maynard says.

Maynard's check was more than enough to bring the Kabashi family to the United States. In August 2009, they packed up their few belongings and flew to St. Louis, where the International Institute of St. Louis helped them find a small apartment and helped Munawar look for a job.

Maynard flew from Martha's Vineyard to meet the family, bringing them clothes and toys for the children.

Asked what it was like the first time she met the Kabashi family, Maynard replied: "It felt equivalent to when the doctor gave me my son in my arms for the first time."

One month later, on Sept. 18, 2009, Lana gave birth to a baby boy named Hakim, which means "wise" and sometimes refers to "doctor" in Arabic.

He is one of the first Darfuri refugees to be born in the United States -- the family's first American citizen.

This past August, Kristi and Gary Maynard, along with their children Kinsman and Clara, hosted the Kabashi family at their farm in Martha's Vineyard.