Widowed in Their 20s, Couple Finds Love Again

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"Someone had sent me a link to Jessica's blog after my wife died, but I didn't click on it -- I didn't care," he said. But after realizing they had friends in common, he went back home and pored through a "sea of messages" to find the link.

"I loved how candid she was," he said. "She described the raw emotion that I had felt on so many occasions. … I respected her for honoring his life. How much she adored him was something very powerful to me."

Then Jordan, who barely had 25 of his closest friends on Facebook, friended Jessica. He said he was careful not to be "the creepy guy" who stalks someone after they accept the Facebook request.

"That's not my MO," he laughed.

Jessica, too, at first ignored his request -- until she realized they had mutual friends from Morgan State, where Jordan had attended college. "I smiled, but I never responded," she said.

But days later, she had lunch with the same couple who knew Jordan and they sang his praises. So she researched his blog and was moved to reach out to him.

"I was a little further along the path -- I was three years out and he was only at a year and a half -- and I told him you never get over it, but you learn to live with it," said Jessica.

Their email exchanges got longer and deeper and eventually Jordan made an excuse to visit her in September in Washington. DC., where she was working at the time. He was said he was "incredibly nervous … afraid I would screw up."

They sat for hours over lunch talking. "I cried as he was talking, and he got emotional as I was talking," said Jessica. "He invited me to get together the next day."

The second day was more comfortable for Jordan. And that six-hour date was a moment of realization for Jessica.

"I can't really say when or why during that conversation, but there was a period where I was looking at him, and I thought, 'Whoa, what's going on?' I could not believe what was happening," she said. "When he left, I was flabbergasted. I knew my life was about to turn upside down."

Jordan said he felt the same way: "I knew, 100 percent, this was it."

From then on, as Jessica recalled, it was "full speed ahead."

Within weeks, they introduced the other to their families. Almost without words, they knew they would be married, so they arranged for premarital counseling with a therapist Jordan had seen after Danielle's death.

"We wanted to make sure we were thinking clearly," said Jessica, "and not caught in la-la land."

The therapist ordered an assessment test -- about 100 questions on topics from conflict resolution to financial management, and was stunned with the results: "Either you guys are the kind of people who anticipate the other person's answer or you are the most compatible couple I have ever seen."

The rest is history. The couple will make their home in New York City, where Jordan has begun preaching at a non-denominational parish in Harlem. They say they are best friends and lovers and are eager to start a family together.

"We always laugh," said Jordan. "I stare into her eyes and feel so incredibly connected and hope and pray we have a long life together -- though, that is not always promised."

"Who has a man like this? Really, he can't be real. No man is like this, so very loyal and caring, supportive and principled," said Jessica, who was on a separate line in their interview with ABCNews.com.

"I am crying over here on the other end of the phone."

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