Ivy Pride: The Next Trend in Meeting Your Mate

Matt Gorman, a Georgetown graduate who will serve as a regular co-host for future D.C. events, met Anderson at a Democratic Party dinner in 2004. He said when he heard about her plans for TIPS, he pushed her to allow other consistently ranked schools into the club.

"When she started it, I said, 'I went to Georgetown, we're up there in the Ivy League," recalled Gorman. "I don't know if I convinced her to do the 'plus,' but I said we're just as smart as Penn and Brown."

"Who doesn't want to meet people romantically? That's a bonus. Smart, interesting, ambitious people that you can also hold hands with. What's wrong with that?" asked Gorman, who described himself as a "connector."

The founder of OKCupid.com insisted that finding a connection takes much more than an Ivy League association. When people join OKCupid.com, they are asked to answer a number of questions according to their personal preferences, then answer the same questions according to how their ideal match would respond, and finally, weigh the questions and answers on a five-point scale of importance -- from irrelevant to mandatory.

"A generic algorithm allows people to specify their own preferences and their own customized matching system," he said. "What we see happening is that the questions people care about are things about lifestyle, whether you smoke, your religious preferences, your ambitions, how you spend your free time. They want to know that you have a degree … but, what we don't see people caring about at all is did you go to the same school that I did?"

So were any Ivy League love connections made Friday night? Drew and Emily, both graduates of Cornell University, who work together at a consulting firm but are just friends, called the party "average."

"There aren't that many good-looking women," said Drew. "I was going to say the same about the men," interjected Emily. Both agreed that the event's "Ivy" qualification "definitely" contributed to to the general ambience and makeup of the crowd.

But others felt the party was a little too lively.

Rebecca, who graduated from Williams College and obtained a doctorate in psychology from Princeton University, said she had attended other Ivy League events in the past that had a "much older demographic and a different vibe."

Finding the Right Vibe

"They were easier to hear, not as loud. This feels a little more like a fraternity party," she admitted. "I'd like something in between."

Yagan explained e-dating would continue to be popular in addition to in-person organized dating trends like TIPS, because it's more customizable.

"We provide the audience of users, so we're like the bar that attracts everyone together, and then we provide you with the analytical tools to filter through the millions we have on the site to find the people most compatible with you," said Yagan. "The thing about something like TIPS is that it's a very blunt instrument with which to filter ... If it really were that great of a way to meet someone, you'd see these people get together without a need for a club like TIPS."

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