Gay, Mormon and Happily Married with Children


"Evolving" Mormon Church

The Weeds story comes at a time when many believe the Mormon church is slowly evolving to be more accepting of the homosexual lifestyle.

Until recently, church leaders did not accept the notion that someone could be gay and still be a faithful member of the church. Homosexuality was viewed as a sin, and often compared to alcoholism. Local church bishops would recommend marriage as a way to make gay feelings "go away." Many Mormon leaders also encouraged "reparative therapy," a process by which patients received an electric shock when shown homosexual images.

But after the bruising battle in 2008 over California's Proposition 8, and complaints from within the church that Mormons were viewed as too intolerant, church leadership has begun to soften its stance. The church now says simply being gay is no longer considered a sin, though acting on those feelings still is, as is any sexual relationship outside of a traditional heterosexual marriage.

Gay Mormon activists say church leaders have begun speaking with them about gay issues. Earlier this summer, an estimated 300 straight Mormons marched in Salt Lake City's gay pride parade. Some of the participants carried signs reading "LDS loves LGBT."

John Dehlin compared his church's evolution on homosexuality to other struggles in Mormon history.

"One of the beautiful things about our church is that we have a history of ultimately getting it right," he said. "We practiced polygamy for over 50 years, and at some point we gave it up. We kept blacks out of full fellowship in the church for over 100 years. And eventually we let them into full fellowship into the church."

"I have no doubt in my mind in the next 30, 50 or 100 years that legally married gay men and women are going to be accepted into the church at a minimum to be able to serve in callings and to be able to participate and worship along side straight members of the church," he continued.

Living A Lie?

Josh Weed said no matter where the Mormon church's stance on homosexuality goes from here, he is confident that he has found the love of his life. He insisted that even though he considers himself gay, he is not living a lie.

"There were moments, of the reality of it sinking in. Part of the evaluation process as we made these decisions was is that worth the exchange? Josh said, "Is this worth that loss? And ultimately for me it is."

The Weeds said the next dilemma they face is deciding when will it be appropriate to tell their daughters, ages 6, 4 and 1 year old, about their family's untraditional union.

Josh said their oldest daughter is already asking questions. The couple said they plan to be as open with their children as they were in Josh's blog posting.

"We'll have to let her know that this is a component of our marriage and why dad chose to marry mom even though he has these feelings," Lolly said. "We'll sit her down and just explain it to her."

The Weeds said they're just another happy Mormon family and the fact that Josh is gay won't change that.

Watch the full story on "Nightline" tonight at 11:35 p.m. ET/PT

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