Working moms are making it work: On Mother's Day 2005, they express broad satisfaction with their lives, work/life balance and parenting skills.
But oh, for a little spare time.
This ABC News/Washington Post poll finds that working moms (those with kids under 18 at home) are as satisfied as other women with their lives overall and their ability to balance work and family life. And they're no more likely than other working women to say they'd quit their job or cut their hours if they could.
But time is a different story: Among women who don't work outside the home, 68 percent are "very satisfied" with the amount of spare time they have. Among women who don't have kids at home, it's 51 percent, still a majority. But among working moms that plummets: Just 20 percent are happy with their free time.
Satisfaction (percent "very satisfied")
|Working Moms||Other Women|
|Amount of Free Time||20||49|
Then again, dads are in much the same boat. Twenty-eight percent of working dads are very satisfied with their spare time, just a tad more than among working moms. And working dads are less likely than working moms to be happy with their mix of work and family life: Forty-one percent of working dads are very satisfied with this balance, compared with 53 percent of working mothers.
The time squeeze between working and parenting doesn't mean working moms (or dads) would bail out of their jobs altogether. Just 21 percent of working mothers say they'd stop working altogether if they could do so and still maintain their standard of living. Ditto for working dads, 20 percent.
At the same time, few working moms (or dads) say they'd keep working as much as they do now -- 22 percent and 25 percent, respectively. Instead, almost identical majorities of working mothers and fathers take the happy medium, saying they'd keep working, but fewer hours.
What Would You Do If You Didn't Have to Work?
|Work the Same Hours||Work, but Fewer Hours||Wouldn't Work|
As it stands, working these days is the norm for parents: Seventy percent of women with kids under 18 currently work outside the home, as do 83 percent of dads. For nearly six in 10 married couples with young children, both parents work.
The prevalence of families in which both parents work, and the constraints on free time that result, may be one reason so many people think parenting is just plain harder than it was for the previous generation. Three-quarters of working moms say motherhood is more demanding these days, and 69 percent of working dads agree. And just over six in 10 in both groups say fathering is tougher, too.
Is Motherhood More, Less or as Demanding as for Previous Generations?
It follows that a significant number of people -- 48 percent of all Americans, and 44 percent of working moms -- also say they think mothers these days are doing a worse job as parents than their own mothers did 20 or 30 years ago.