Online Dating Scam: 'Military Guy' Steals Widow's Heart and Nearly $500,000

Sweetheart scammers pose as members of the armed forces.

ByABC News
November 8, 2011, 10:54 AM

Nov. 8, 2011— -- Esther Ortiz-Rodeghero was looking for love, but she found something much more ominous: a savvy online scammer posing as a military man who convinced her to fork over nearly $500,000 of her life savings.

"I was so blinded by it, because if you were to read some of the emails he would send me, this man was romancing me," she told "He would say things like, 'We're going to live together. We're going to be happy together. You're the woman of my dreams.' Things that a woman who is hurting for attention and love would want to hear."

Now the 55-year-old widow from Castle Rock, Colo., is struggling to get by.

"I cashed out my 401k and my savings -- everything," she said.

To make matters worse, she was recently laid off from her job as a financial analyst after 17 years with the same company. Her house is in foreclosure and she's declared bankruptcy.

But just one year ago, her life looked much different.

Searching for Love Online

Ortiz-Rodeghero, who first told her story to ABC affiliate KMGH-TV in Denver, said she decided to start dating in October 2010, several months after her 52-year-old husband David Rodeghero died of pancreatic cancer.

"After seeing a therapist I was advised maybe I should go on a dating website and meet new people ... because I was depressed," she said.

That was when Ortiz-Rodeghero discovered a website called, and set up a profile.

Soon after, a man claiming to be an Army major general named Wayne Jackson contacted her. He sent her a picture of a dashing, dark-haired man in fatigues.

"It looked like, you know, a military guy," she said. "He was good looking ... he was in uniform."

The man featured in the photo saw his image being used in online news reports and subsequently contacted The 30-year military veteran, who retired last year, said his picture had been stolen from his former MySpace page.

"I think most intelligent people would surmise that obviously that picture was faked and it's not the real guy," said the man, who wished to remain anonymous. "I think everybody wants 15 minutes of fame. I don't. Certainly not in this venue."

In the scammer's initial messages to Ortiz-Rodeghero, he reportedly said he was stationed in Iraq, but he claimed he was going to retire and come home to the United States.

"He told me he was a widower and he lost his wife in an automobile accident," Ortiz-Rodeghero said. He also claimed his sister had told him about the website and "convinced" him to use it, she said. "I was very taken by him and didn't question his sincerity."

One month later, after emailing nearly every day, he began asking for money.

"He requested that I send him $800 -- he said his bank account had been frozen due to fraud," she said. "[In hindsight] his own maybe."

He showed her bank statements, explaining that someone had taken $8,000 from his account and he needed to show up in person to sort it all out with the bank. Of course, that was impossible, she said he told her, because he was in Iraq.

She agreed to send him $500.

Another month passed, and he asked for money again.

"He started talking about how when he got out of the military he wanted to start an auto shipping business and he was thinking we could start it together and run it together and so I thought, 'Well, maybe this is a good opportunity to invest in a business,'" she said. "So he started asking me for money for fees he would have to pay."

By 2011 he claimed to have left Iraq for Japan where he was meeting with potential business partners, because he "had lined up some cars to be shipped to the states and that they had to go through some sort of quarantine and he needed money for that to be covered," Ortiz-Rodeghero said.

"So I sent him $100,000 for that, thinking that would be part of our business," she said. "All the time he kept telling me, 'I'll pay you back, I'll pay you back. I'll take care of you, don't worry.'"

But that day never came. She kept sending more and more money, until she had tapped out her 401k and personal savings.

Everything was "I'll pay you back when I get to the States," she said.

During the entire relationship, they never spoke on the phone.

"He kept telling me he couldn't call me -- for security reasons they wouldn't allow him to have that kind of access," she said.