Parents of 12-year-old who committed suicide say school didn't do enough to stop bullying of daughter
Mallory Grossman took her own life after parents say she was bullied at school.
— -- It was June when Dianne and Seth Grossman, along with their 12-year-old daughter Mallory, had what they called an exhaustive meeting at Malloryâs middle school in Rockaway, New Jersey, leading them to decide to take her out of the school.
The Grossmans say they were there to talk with school officials about their repeated complaints that their daughter had been viciously bullied by classmates for months in the classroom, through text messages and social media posts, and they believed the school wasnât doing enough to stop it.
âThey only thing that [school officials] said was, âWeâre investigating it, weâll look into it, I know your frustration,ââ Dianne Grossman told ABC "Nightline" co-anchor Dan Harris. âAnd Mallory left there feeling so depleted. She just said, âYou just made it worse.â Sheâs like, âYou donât know these girls. You just made it worse.ââ
âShe was exhausted,â Dianne Grossman added. âI donât think she felt safe. I think she was really sad.â
Four hours later, the Grossmans said, their daughter took her own life.
âI donât think you can fathom what itâs like to see your perfectly healthy child gone,â Dianne said.
Now the Grossmans are demanding accountability. On Tuesday, they announced plans to sue the Rockaway Township school district, alleging that it failed to prevent the harassment, and possibly the parents of some of the kids they say bullied Mallory.
âSomeone needs to be held accountable,â Seth Grossman said. âNew Jersey has some of the toughest laws on the books in the country in terms of harassment and bullying.â
âAnd what good are the laws if no one follows through with them,â his wife added. âI wasnât with her eight hours a day. I wasnât. They were. I was sending them messages saying, âThese girls are torturing her at school, sheâs uncomfortable, she doesnât feel safe, and they were like, âWeâll look into it.ââ
Malloryâs mother said the sixth grader loved gymnastics, cheerleading and going camping with her family.
âMallory to me is the all-American child,â Dianne Grossman said. âSheâs just the all-American little girl.â
But during the school year, the Grossmans said they began to realize Mallory was having problems at Copeland Middle School.
âWe just chalked it up to the usual, just girls teasing kind of thing,â Seth said. âThen it escalated and got a little more out of hand.â
âShe kind of had a target on her back of âLetâs just pick on her, letâs make her feel bad,ââ Dianne said. âOne girl called her fat, one girl called her ugly.â
Her parents say the bullying began in the classroom, where they said some students would kick their daughterâs chair.
â[Itâs] not something that the teachers could see, but just that repetitive tapping and calling her names from behind her back,â Dianne said.
Then, they say, the bullying moved on to text messages and social media posts. Seth Grossman said classmates would take âmalicious picturesâ of Mallory at school and post them online.
âOne post, Mallory asked them to take it down and the girl wrote back âNever,â with the smiley face laughing,â Dianne said.
This past spring, the Grossmans said they started to notice some disturbing changes in their daughter, from failing grades to Mallory complaining of headaches and stomach pains and not wanting to go to school. The Grossmans said they repeatedly complained to school officials but their complaints were not taken seriously enough.
âWhen there is a repeat complaint, pretty regularly, I think they should have said, âYou know what, letâs take a stronger look at this and really see what is going on,ââ Dianne Grossman said.
Although experts say that teen suicides can rarely be attributed to just one cause, the Cyberbullying Research Center says 34 percent of students surveyed report having been cyberbullied in their life and adolescent girls are more likely to experience harassment.
The Grossmans said the June meeting with school officials had been a rough day, but they didnât see Malloryâs suicide coming. With their lawsuit, they want to hold responsible the people they blame for their daughterâs death.
âThe goal of this case is to give a wake-up call to every family, every school, in every town throughout this country,â said Bruce Nagel, an attorney for the Grossman family. âThey need to know cyberbullying is an epidemic and they need to stop this.â
The school district declined to comment to ABC News, but it released a statement on Wednesday, which said it was âaware of the announcement yesterday of the notice of tort claim against the district by the parents of Mallory Grossman. So far, we have not seen that notice.â
âBecause the case is still under investigation by the Morris County Prosecutorâs Office, and also the subject of a tort claim, under the advice of legal counsel, The Rockaway Township School District cannot discuss this case in public or with media,â the statement continued. âThe teachers, staff and administrators within the Rockaway Township School District are, as they have always been, and will continue to be, committed to protecting the rights and safety for all our students.â
The Morris County Prosecutorâs Office also told ABC News that the case is under investigation. No criminal charges have been filed.
Now the Grossmans say they are hoping to create a national movement they're calling "Mallory's Army" to prevent any more young people from hurting themselves.
âWe want to make sure that⌠she becomes the hero that I think that a lot of children want someone to speak out and speak up for them,â said Dianne Grossman.
ABC News' Jenner Smith and Lauren Effron contributed to this report