New York Man's Meticulous Dating Spreadsheet Goes Viral
David Merkur sent a woman his grid for organizing his Match.com dates.
April 19, 2012 — -- A New York man's meticulous dating spreadsheet has gone viral after he sent it to one of the women he was dating.
The Excel spreadsheet chronicles David Merkur's interaction and relationship with each woman he met on Match.com.
The grid is broken down into several categories including Match.com user name, real name, age, profile picture, online appearance ranking, initial notes, contact information, timeline of communication, date status and date comments.
"Mixed bag of pictures, but great bod; works in my building, also in finance; well traveled; lives on LES," Merkur wrote of one of the women. He noted on the chart that he was supposed to go on a date with her on April 3, but she had to cancel due to a work-related event. "Next time TBD."
The column for "initial date status" is color-coded with some of the women's dates in red, meaning "Monitor closely (bold = ASAP)," and others in green, meaning the date is upcoming.
On April 4, Merkur went to New York's Rose Bar with a woman whom he described as, "Very pretty; sweet & down to earth/great personality; hope to see again soon."
During their date, the spreadsheet came up in conversation and the woman asked if he would send it to her. After some hesitation, he did.
Merkur wrote to her in an email:
"Well ... this could be a mistake, but what the hell. I thought about deleting the names, but figured I might as will give you the whole thing. I only deleted the non-match people's names (at the bottom) since some I've known for a long time. I hope this e-mail doesn't backfire, because I really had a great time and hope to hang again soon :). However, I will keep my word! Have a great weekend!"
A few days later, the woman forwarded the spreadsheet to her friends as "Monday morning entertainment."
She wrote, "I went on a date with this guy last Wednesday. On the date, he tells me that he has a spreadsheet for tracking all of the people from match that are 'in process.' Naturally, I tease him and ask him to send me the spreadsheet. For some strange reason, he actually does."
The email ended, "Just when I thought I had seen it all...."
Merkur did not respond to requests for comment from ABCNews.com.
From there, the spreadsheet went viral. But some of the women are not thrilled with the newfound attention.
The highest score for "online appearance," a 9.5, went to Liliana Beidaut, who Merkur noted "looks beautiful; from coastal Romania; Chanel make-up artist."
"I've gotten a lot of calls from random people saying, 'Oh, you're the 9.5,'" Beidaut told ABCNews.com.
Beidaut, 26, has mixed feelings about the spreadsheet. She holds no resentment for Merkur, whom she is friends with through Facebook and text-chats but has never met in person.
"I think the guy is really nice," Beidaut said. "I never met him and I don't think he did something that bad. He was nice, and he was trying to keep himself organized. I think he took that seriously and was really looking for a girl."
Beidaut has harsher words for the woman who sent around the spreadsheet.
"Why would she send it to the whole world? It was a really stupid move," Beidaut said. "My face is plastered everywhere now. I wasn't looking for that. I just thinking that I was using Match.com."
Beidaut said she is "absolutely" considering taking legal action against the woman that sent the email because she believes her privacy has been violated. She has already spoken to at least one other woman on the list who is similarly upset.
"I think he really liked the girl and he trusted her, so he sent her the thing," she said. "He had some doubt before she sent it out and I think she was spiteful."