Love Knows No Boundaries With Dan Savage


"He's the one I settled on," Savage said. "He's the one I picked. He's the one who picked me. He's the one who makes me happier than not. I pay him the compliment of pretending he's the one and he pays me the compliment of pretending I'm the one even though we both know that there is no 'one.'"

Standing Up for LGBT Rights: 'It Gets Better'

Together, Savage and Miller launched the "It Gets Better" project last year, a YouTube channel that hosts video messages of hope for gay teens who are bullied. When Savage first suggested the idea to Miller, he said it was more of a personal project.

"I [wanted] to talk about not just that we were both bullied and we got through it," Savage said, "but [to] talk about our joy and encourage other gay and lesbian and bi-, trans adults to do the same and give these kids hope for their futures."

While they thought they would get around 100 submissions, the project ended up with more than 9,000 videos. Celebrities such as Kathy Griffin and Anne Hathaway, companies such as Google and Gap, politicians such as Hillary Clinton and even President Barack Obama submitted videos.

"The president looked in the camera and said, 'You're not alone. You didn't do anything wrong,'" Savage said. "That's the president of the United States saying to LGBT kids there's something wrong with the people who are telling you there's something wrong with you."

Along the way, Savage and Miller said they've heard some incredible stories from people who said their project had helped them.

"I heard from a lesbian girl the other day whose parents disapprove," Savage said. "She's watching the 'it gets better' videos on her iPhone under her covers at night, so the project has delivered into this girl's home, into her bedroom, these messages that are gonna help her get through this rough period with her family. And that's one way it gets better."

The duo has turned the video messages into a book of essays and stories, also called "It Gets Better," although they said there are still a few faces they want to hear from for the project.

"The pope," Savage said, laughing.

Then, more seriously, Miller added, "We have zero videos from any Republican politicians. There's not one single Republican politician who has gone on video to tell gay, lesbian youth that their lives are valued and that it gets better."

Savage on Mixing Sex and Politics

Not one to hide his political feelings, Savage famously went after former Sen. Rick Santorum, R-Pa. -- now a Republican contender in the 2012 presidential race -- in 2003 after the senator compared homosexuality to "rape" and "bestiality" in an interview.

After one of Savage's readers pointed out to him that the name "Santorum" sounded scientific, even "Latin-y," Savage asked his fans to come up with a definition for the word. An online vote followed. Now, when "Santorum" is Googled, the very graphic, winning definition is the first link to pop up.

Savage said he did it to prove the gay community can "punch back."

Although he receives angry letters sometimes when he mixes his political views into his columns, Savage said it seemed only fair to do so.

"I will leave politics alone when politicians start leaving sex alone," he said.

Although sex is his focus, Savage said his main purpose for writing is to help others, no matter their sexual orientation -- or their sexual problem.

"I go speak at colleges and girls, who they never had an orgasm before, come up and tell me about the column where I walked somebody else who had that problem through how to become orgasmic and that column did it for them," Savage said. "I mean, it's staggering to think I'm a gay man and I give college girls orgasms."

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