Book Excerpt: 'Quiet Strength'

Super Bowl-winning coach Tony Dungy talks about faith and loss in new book.

ByABC News via GMA logo
July 11, 2007, 2:08 PM

July 12, 2007 — -- This year Tony Dungy experienced many firsts.

He was part of the first Super Bowl that featured a black head coach. His opponent had a black coach, too, making it the first time two black coaches went head to head in the game. When he won the big game, it was not only his first win, but the first for any black coach in the game's history.

In "Quiet Strength," Dungy goes beyond his major victory and even the game of football to discuss his faith and overcoming the tragic death of his son, James, who committed suicide in 2005.

With a foreword by Denzel Washington, Dungy's first book may prove inspirational to many readers.

You can read an excerpt of his book below.

We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; Perplexed, but not in despair; Persecuted, but not destroyed. We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus,so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body. For we who are alive are always being given over to death for Jesus' sake, so that His life may be revealed in ourmortal body.

2 Corinthians 4:8-11

We are blessed and privileged to write the foreword to a book that truly represents the power of God and the rewards of obedience to God's Word. On February 4, 2007, millions of people witnessed Coach Tony dungy confirm his faith after winning the greatest award in football, the super bowl Championship. Coach Dungy made history as the first African American coach to win the Super bowl.although that is significant,it is only a small part of his journey toward fulfilling his life's purpose.

It has been said that we get good at whatever we practice. Coach Dungy practices proactive faith. This faith is not a gimmick or magic or the will of a strong mind. It is not ashort-order request to receive what we want when we want it. Proactive faith is receiving everything that has been promised to us by God's Word for His purpose and in His timing. Because of his proactive faith, Tony Dungy has been able to climb many mountains. Great achievements require great effort, and Coach Dungy's greatest accomplishment is that through it all, he has stayed obedient to God's will.

Coach Dungy's life displays his steadfast belief in God and his submission to God's Word. His story is a guide for basic living and a confession of his belief in Jesus Christ, the Son of God. This account is proof that Coach Dungy's beliefs have sustained him consistently throughout his life. To follow Coach Dungy's life from his beginnings tothe present is most inspiring. For him to have been rejected, ignored, praised, and denied -- yet still maintain dignity, strength, and hope -- is a testament to his unwavering faith. At times his choices have not been popular, but he has stood his ground. He has remained commited to the will of God. The payoff of such faith is far better than anything the material world can offer. In this world, one can never be satisfied. The reward of remaining patient and obedient to the will of God is that life becomes fulfilling and satisfying . . .complete.

Hebrews 11:6 says, "Without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to Him must believe that He exists and that He rewards those who earnestly seek Him." We see a beautiful testimony of such faith in this man of courage.Pauletta and Denzel Washington

By N at h a n Wh i ta k e r
Tony was reluct ant to single out people specifically,noting how many people made this book possible, both by direct participation as well as in the entwining of their very lives into Tony and Lauren's, and thereby into the fabric of these pages. Although he's right?we're bound to forget people?I had far too much help with this book to not attempt to recognize those who assisted.

We are grateful for the time and memories of Jerry Angelo, Jim Caldwell, Vernon Cheek, Clyde Christensen, Jackie Cook, Mark Dominik, Herm Edwards, Leslie Frazier, Loren Harris, John Idzik, Craig Kelley, Tom Lamphere, Rich McKay, Mark Merrill, VeronicaPinto, Tim Ruskell, Donnie Shell, Alan Williams, and RustonWebster.

Recognition is also due the pastors who have ministered to Tony and Lauren so faithfully through their married life: Richard Farmer, Charles Briscoe, Steve Gould, Ken Whitten, Abe Brown, Jeff Singletary, John Ramsey, and Clarence Moore. D.J. Snell of Legacy, LLC, in his dual roles as our literary agentas well as a brother in Christ, has been invaluable with his guidance and vision for this book, as has Jim Dodson, with his assistance andencouragement on manuscript concepts.

Our faith in Tyndale House Publishers has been borne out by the work of Jan Long Harris, Todd Starowitz, Sarah Atkinson, Doug Knox, Mark Taylor, Dan Elliott, Lisa Jackson, Jeremy Taylor, Bonne Steffen, Erin Smith, Sarah Rubio, Dean Renninger, and the rest of the outstanding staff.In addition, I have been carried by the assistance -- sometimes through encouraging word or prayer, other times through more direct roles with the book -- of Don Buerkle, Dom and Karen Capers, Brian and Cindy Clark, Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn, David French, Chan Gailey, Matthew Hartsfield, John Kingston, Buddy Moore, Betsy and Mike Mularkey, Phil Pharr, Rob Rose, Heath Scheisser, Charlie Skalaski, Todd and Christine Stockberger, George Woods, and John Wunderli.I am incredibly thankful for the assistance of Lauren Dungy,who balanced a desire to shield their already public life with the knowledge that sharing their experiences might affect lives. I praythat the Lord will continue to bless her tremendous impact through her partnership with Tony.

If you want to lift yourself up, lift up someone else.Booker T. Washington

"ABS OLU TELY NOT." I have been approached many times over the last few years about writing a book, and my answer has always been the same.In 2004 I had lunch with my good friend Nathan Whitaker in Indianapolis, and we talked about doing a book that would be more about life than about football. Could I see how such a book could help others? Yes. But still my answer was no. And then my team, the Indianapolis Colts, won Super Bowl XLI in February 2007.Still no.

But then cards and letters and e-mails started to roll in.

"Thank you for your witness before the game. . . ."

"My son and I watched your comments after the game together. I could take him to church twenty times, and it wouldn't have opened up a chance for us to talk the way watching the Super Bowl did. . . ."

"My husband moved out three weeks ago but heard one of your comments about putting your family first. He has since called and wants to come talk. . . ."

I like the saying, "Life is hard, but God is good." It's because of God's goodness that we can have hope, both for here and the hereafter. And it's the desire to share that hope that finally changed my no to yes.

But before we begin, I want to make sure we're starting at the same place. The point of this book is not the Super Bowl. In fact, it's not football.Don't get me wrong -- football is great. It's provided a living and a passion for me for decades. It was the first job I ever had that actually got me excited about heading to work. But football is just a game. It's not family. It's not a way of life. It doesn't provide any sort of intrinsic meaning. It's just football. It lasts for three hours, and when the game is over,it's over.

And frankly, as you'll see throughout this book, that fact -- that when it's over, it's over -- is part of football's biggest appeal to me. When a game ends, win or lose, it's time to prepare for the next one. The coaches and players really don't have time to celebrate or to stay down, because Sunday's gone and Monday's here. And no matter what happened yesterday, you have to be ready to play next Sunday. That's how it works -- just like life.

It's the journey that matters. Learning is more important than the test. Practice well, and the games will take care of themselves. Whether you've been kicked in the teeth or life just couldn't get any sweeter, it keeps rolling on . . . and then there's another game. If football were the only thing that mattered to me, I would have left coaching after the 2001 season, when I had finished with the Tampa Bay Buccaneers -- or when they had finished with me. At that time, I thought God might be moving me into some other walk of life. There were a lot of things I had always wanted to do "someday," and my family certainly wanted to stay in Tampa. I figured God was simply telling methat "someday" had arrived.

If it were all about football, I would have left after the 2005 season, when I was reminded -- in the most painful context I can imagine -- that football really occupies a spot far down my list of priorities. If it were all about football, I would have moved on after the 2006 season, when the Colts won Super Bowl XLI, accomplishing the ultimate team goal in the National Football League. After all, if football were all that mattered, what else would be left to do?It would have been easy enough to do: "Ladies and gentlemen, I've achieved the ultimate victory. I'm stepping down."

Everyone would have understood. But winning the Super Bowl is not the ultimate victory.And once again, just to make certain we're on the same page, it's not all about football. It's about the journey -- mine and yours -- and the lives we can touch, the legacy we can leave, and the world we can change for the better. I'm still not totally comfortable putting my story in a book, but here's how I see it: although football has been a part of my life that I've really enjoyed, I've always viewed it as a meansto do something more. A means to share my faith, to encourage and lift up other people. And I see this book as a way of expanding the platform that football has provided.Despite my day job, I am by nature a very private person in a very private family. So you won't see a whole lot about my children in this book. I love them dearly, and it's impossible to tell my story without mentioning them. At the same time, a tension exists because my wife, Lauren, has worked very hard to make our kids' upbringing as normal as possible with a father who is the head coach of an NFL team. So with one notable, obvious exception, you won't find much discussion of my children in this book. I hope you, as well as they, understand and appreciate why.


We are pressed on every side by troubles, but we are not crushed. We are perplexed, but not driven to despair. We are hunted down, but never abandoned by God. We get knocked down, but we are not destroyed.
2 Corinthians 4:8-9

IT WAS TIME. I figured I had waited long enough. Darkness had fallen on that winter evening, two days after our team's business had concluded for the season. The building was otherwise deserted as I pulled up and parked at the small wooden shack guarding the entrance to One Buccaneer Place. One Buc, as we all called it, stood quiet. The one-story, stucco and concrete block building was located on the edge of the Tampa International Airport. The color of butter pecan ice cream, this was the original building that housed the newly formed Buccaneers in 1976. Rather than expand the building as the organization exploded in size over the years -- as personnelwere added for coaching, scouting, marketing, public relations, ticketing, and other functions -- the Bucs had simply added a series of trailers on the other side of a small parking lot in the late 1990s. The trailers were collectively known as Two Buc.Oscar, the guard on duty, escorted me through the locked gate on the side of the building; my security code no longer worked. Silently I gathered six years' worth of my professional life from my office -- three-ring binders with notes, play diagrams, and play-calling sheets; various books and photographs;my sons' video games; and a couple of Buccaneers hats, although I'd never wear them again. I was lost in my memories as I placed these things rather haphazardly in cardboard boxes thoughtfully left out for me by my administrative assistant. No, I realized, Lora is somebody else's administrative assistant now.

I stopped to contemplate a wood-framed picture in the stack. It had been taken our first year in Tampa, and we were all beaming: my daughter, Tiara; my sons, Jamie and Eric; my wife,Lauren; and me. The stadium grass behind us was a vibrant green, the shade of an Irish meadow, sliced into five-yard incrementsby crisp, white stripes. A teeming throng of humanity, dressed in orange and red and squinting in the unforgiving Florida sun, filled the stands in the picture's background.The summer of 1996 had been a long time ago.

Now, in the winter of 2002, that same Florida sky was dark. Dark, cold, and damp. The mist that had begun in the afternoon had turned to light drops. The weather mirrored my dark inner world on that night of January 14.

I finished packing the last of the items. Not that much, really. A few boxes stood by the door, ready to be carried home. Nothing else of note remained. That office of mine had been lived in pretty hard, I had to admit. Most of the homework completed by my sons Jamie and Eric over the previous six years had been done in there, and the office had seen countless games of catch, video-game competitions, and other pursuits geared around young boys. I later learned that Rich McKay, general manager of theT am pa R a i n Bucs during my tenure as head coach, had asked the facility manager to clean and paint the office that week, noting that my replacement was "about to move into an office that two boys have been living in every day for the last six years."

As I wrapped things up, I noticed that the light drops falling outside had turned into a heavy rain. I should have just walked out, since by then it was gettinglate. Instead, I wandered out of my office and through the building, stopping in the coaches' locker room. Standing in the middle of the room, I let my gaze sweep over the cramped, worn twelve-by-fifteen room. I looked from locker to locker, reading some names, imagining others.Monte Kiffin. Chris Foerster. Clyde Christensen. RodMarinelli.

We had shared this locker room and many memories, these men and I. We had spent hours, weeks, and years together. These men had walked off the frozen, concrete-hard synthetic turf in Philadelphia with me just two days earlier, their careers critically stung by the Bucs' 31?9 loss. So much had been at stake for all of us -- and the players too -- yet the outcome had never really been in doubt. It was a difficult season punctuated by a painful ending. And now God had something different in mind for all of us.I tried to take solace in the things we had accomplished together -- three straight playoff appearances, more wins than any other staff in team history -- but they seemed hollow, even within me. I stared at the lockers, the enormity of the moment suddenly overwhelming as I remembered names of guys long gone from my staff. Lovie Smith. Herm Edwards. Mike Shula.

The prognosticators had been circling for weeks. And amid season-long rumors that a new head coach was being courted, their speculations had finally become reality. I had been fired.Many of the assistant coaches -- maybe all of them -- would be let go as well. They would all come out fine. I knew that. But I also ached for the inevitable pain I knew they would face as they dealt with the uncertainty of their futures, that their children would face when they were uprooted from their schools, that their wives would face when ripped from their support systems. Joe Barry. Mike Tomlin. Alan Williams. Jim Caldwell.