Steve Harvey on Blended Families

"GMA" contributor Steve Harvey helps navigate the murky waters of "stepdom."

ByABC News via logo
September 29, 2009, 2:24 PM

Sept. 30, 2009 — -- Steve Harvey knows from experience some of the challenges stepfamilies, or what he calls "blended families," face. Together, Harvey and his wife, Marjorie, have blended a brood of seven children from previous marriages.

"The first thing we did, we don't use the term stepchildren. I never refer to my youngest daughter as my stepdaughter. She is my daughter," Harvey said. "I don't want them to feel alienated when I introduce them."

Blending two families can be difficult, and Harvey tackled this topic with two couples on "Good Morning America."

Sharlene and Jay Boltz, from Cincinnati, have been married for a year and a half. Together they have four children, two from Sharlene's previous marriage and two from Jay's.

The Boltzes understand that children must make adjustments when families merge, but they want to know how they can help their kids adjust to the change because they are intermixed in ages.

"How do you get them to align? The ages do intermingle so the youngest is no longer the baby, the oldest is no longer the oldest," Sharlene said.

Harvey explained that his family created a system called "accountability partners" to help the children adjust to the changes.

"The two older ones, we have certain things that they can do that the younger ones can't do, and it's kind of to build a bond between those two," Harvey said.

Harvey said extending this privilege helps because neither child then feels like the lesser of the two.

While the Boltzes liked Harvey's idea, they said it is challenging because Jay's two children spend only every other weekend with them, something that Gil and Stephanie Gentry also struggle with.

The Gentrys, from Oklahoma City, have been together for five years. They have two children from Gil's previous marriage, an 8-year-old and a 5-year-old, and the Gentrys just welcomed their new baby, Dorian, into their family.