Inside the mysterious case of 3 deaths, 2 missing children and a terrified husband

The deaths of two spouses preceded the children's disappearance.

February 21, 2020, 10:34 AM

When authorities first began investigating the disappearance of two missing children in Idaho, few could have guessed that the case would expand to three other deaths, rumors of a cult, and a mother who police say "has completely refused" to help them for months before she was finally arrested.

Joshua "JJ" Vallow, 7, and sister Tylee Ryan, 17, were reported missing by extended family members to police in November 2019.

Missing children Joshua Vallow, 7, and Tylee Ryan, 17, were last seen on Sept. 23, 2019 in Rexburg, Idaho.
National Center for Missing and Exploited Children

Authorities in Rexburg have said they think the children's "lives are in danger." They also lambasted Lori Vallow, a 46-year-old Rexburg resident and the adopted mother of Joshua and biological mother of Tylee, for allegedly running off with her new husband, Chad Daybell, in the wake of it all.

Vallow was arrested on Feb. 20 in Kauai, Hawaii, where she had been for about a month with Daybell.

Yet the mysterious case involving the family, and the tragedy that has commenced, appears to begin about 10 months before when Vallow's then-husband, Charles Vallow, filed for divorce.

'Genuine fear for his life'

Charles Vallow, who is the adopted father and biological granduncle of Joshua, filed for divorce from Lori Vallow in February 2019, court records from Maricopa County Superior Court in Arizona show.

His attorney in the proceedings, Steven Ellsworth, said that Vallow expressed "genuine fear for his life and under our advice obtained an Order of Protection against Lori Vallow," according to a statement Ellsworth sent ABC News.

Ellsworth also said Vallow's "main concern throughout the [divorce] case was ensuring JJ was safe, cared for, and that JJ’s routine was consistent due to his special needs," according to the statement.

Vallow wanted the same for Tylee, but because she was not his biological daughter she was not involved in the court proceedings, Ellsworth said.

Vallow's "fear for his life" appeared to stem from statements that Lori Vallow made after meeting Daybell, who is the author of several religious-themed fiction books.

Lori Vallow had at one point claimed she was "a god assigned to carry out the work of the 144,000 at Christ's second coming in July 2020" and didn't want anything to do with her family "because she had a more important mission to carry out," according to court documents obtained by ABC News.

An undated photo shows Lori Vallow. The Rexburg Police Department is asking for the public's help in locating Lori N. Vallow who is wanted for questioning in connection with the disappearance of Vallow's children; Joshua Vallow and Tylee Ryan.
Rexburg Police Department

Kay Woodcock, Charles Vallow's sister, told The Associated Press that her brother was "highly concerned" about his wife.

"It all culminated into that cult that she’s in," Woodcock said, appearing to reference Preparing a People, an organization that preaches about preparing citizens "of this Earth for the second coming of Jesus Christ," according to their website.

Daybell spoke at some Preparing a People events.

Preparing a People issued a lengthy statement on its website in light of the events explaining that the multi-media company has been providing services to a variety of clients over the past seven years.

"It is not a 'group' and is not a 'Cult' or something people join, but has educational lecture events that can be attended or watched on video," the statement reads. "We also do not share any of Chad Daybell's or Lori Vallow's beliefs if they are contrary to Christian principles of honesty, integrity and truth."

Despite the rumors, in March 2019, Charles Vallow dropped the divorce proceedings.

About six months later, he was shot and killed.

Multiple deaths before children disappear

Lori Vallow's brother, Alex Cox, shot and killed her husband in her Chandler, Arizona, home on July 11, 2019, police said.

Vallow went to his wife's home around 8:30 a.m. that day, and the two got into an argument, according to a statement from Chandler police. It was not immediately clear how long the Vallows had not been living together.

Cox allegedly intervened in an attempt to de-escalate the situation, but he and Vallow then got into a physical altercation, police said.

Vallow struck Cox in the head with a baseball bat, then Cox shot Vallow twice in the chest, according to police.

Vallow was pronounced dead at the scene. No charges were filed against Cox.

Detective Seth Tyler, of the Chandler Police Department, told ABC News on Wednesday that the case is being looked at as self-defense. It remains open in an effort to help with the missing children's investigation.

About six months after that shooting, on Dec. 11, 2019, Cox was found unresponsive in his Gilbert, Arizona, home and was later pronounced dead, according to Brenda Carrasco, a public information officer for Gilbert police.

Carrasco said they are waiting for autopsy results to determine the cause and it is too early to say if foul play is involved. She expects the autopsy to take another two and a half months.

In between Vallow and Cox's death, Chad Daybell's wife also died under circumstances that are now believed to be suspicious.

An undated photo shows Chad Daybell. The Rexburg Police Department is asking for the public's help in locating Chad Daybell who is wanted for questioning in connection with the disappearance of Lori Vallow's children; Joshua Vallow and Tylee Ryan.
Rexburg Police Department

Tamara "Tammy" Daybell's death on Oct. 19, 2019, was initially thought to be natural. However, her remains were exhumed in late December and authorities were looking into whether or not she was poisoned, police said.

Authorities later learned through their investigation that Daybell collected at least $430,000 in life insurance after his wife died, according to a probable cause statement.

Around the time of the death of Daybell's wife, Lori Vallow and Chad Daybell told people that Lori Vallow's daughter had died about a year earlier and she had no minor children, according to police.

'I need this to end for all of us'

Joshua and Tylee's safety was called into question in November 2019, when extended family reported that they hadn't been able to speak with Joshua since September and requested a welfare check at the Rexburg home, where the family moved after Lori Vallow's husband was killed.

On Nov. 26, 2019, police said officers spoke with Vallow and Daybell, who said that Joshua was staying with a family friend in Arizona. Authorities learned the next day that Joshua was not staying with that friend.

When police went back the next day to Vallow and Daybell with search warrants, they found that both had "abruptly vacated their residence and left Rexburg."

Police released information to the public about the children on Dec. 20, saying they believe their "lives are in danger."

Police have since said that Vallow "has completely refused" to help in the investigation.

"We know that the children are not with Lori and Chad Daybell and we also have information indicating that Lori knows either the location of the children or what has happened to them," according to Rexburg police. "It is astonishing that rather than work with law enforcement to help us locate her own children, Lori Vallow has chosen instead to leave the state with her new husband."

Police have said their primary concern is finding the children and that "charging decisions will be made in due course based upon the evidence available. If we find that harm was done to these children within our jurisdiction, we will prosecute whoever caused that harm."

An attorney for Vallow and Daybell, Sean Bartholick, called her a "devoted mother" who "resents assertions to the contrary," according to a statement issued last week and obtained by ABC News.

Bartholick said Daybell was "a loving husband" who has the support of his children in this matter.

"We look forward to addressing the allegations once they have moved beyond speculation and rumor," Bartholick said in his statement.

The attorney did not respond to ABC News' questions as to where the two are and said he had no additional comment.

Family members of Vallow and Daybell urged them to come forward for the sake of Joshua and Tylee.

Matt Daybell, Chad Daybell's older brother, issued a statement Friday saying he was "deeply saddened" at the recent events.

"It is our hope and prayer that JJ and Tylee are safe. We want for the truth to be found -- whatever that truth turns out to be," according to the statement provided to ABC News.

When it was discovered that Vallow and Daybell were in Kauai, Hawaii, Vallow's older son, Colby Ryan, pleaded with her to come home and do what was right. His plea came a day after she failed to bring the children to authorities in Idaho, as she had been ordered to do by authorities.

"I want you to step up more than anything in the world," Ryan said in a video posted to YouTube on Jan. 31. "Step up and just do the right thing."

Arrest is made

Nearly a month after the two were spotted in Kauai, Vallow was arrested by police there on a warrant issued from authorities Madison County, Idaho. She is facing multiple charges, including two felony counts of desertion and nonsupport of dependent children, according to police.

She is being held on $5 million bail in a Kauai jail. She is expected to appear in court there to have an opportunity to waive or fight her extradition to Idaho, where she will face her criminal charges. A date for that hearing hasn't yet been set.

Daybell was not arrested. When spotted by an ABC News reporter in Hawaii, he did not respond to repeated questions.

Lori Vallow, also known as Lori Daybell, the mother of two Idaho children missing since September, was arrested Feb. 20, 2020, in Hawaii, Kauai police said.
Kauai Police Department

Larry Woodcock, the biological grandfather of JJ, told ABC News Vallow's arrest came with mixed emotions.

"We know it's a positive step forward," he said. "We also know that as good as this news is, is as bad as it is also because we still don't have children."

ABC News' Emily Shapiro contributed to this report.