How Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith Do Date Night
"A lot of times, we'll do it at the house because when we go out it can be a little hectic," Pinkett Smith told the October issue of Health magazine.
Their time at home, though, is far from low key.
"So we have different places around our yard where we like to set up a little Arabian tent, pillows, wine and cheese, candlelight. Will likes really thought-out productions," the "Gotham" actress told the magazine.
Will and Jada, who have been married 17 years, are low key, though, when it comes to parenting their two children, Willow and Jaden.
"I think we have to have more trust in our children," Pinkett Smith told Health. "People have always gotten on us about not punishing the kids, and let me just talk to you about that for a minute. We raised three kids before Willow and Jaden, and especially on my goddaughter, I put so many boundaries on her: 'No, you can't do that, you can't do this.' And everything I tried to control, every freakin' thing I was trying to avoid, happened."
Added Pinkett Smith, "I learned a lot from that experience and realized that while Willow and Jaden are still with me and have a safety net, I want to give them the opportunity to make mistakes and learn how to put boundaries on themselves. So by the time they're out of the house, they fly."
Pinkett Smith opened up about a recent moment she shared with Willow that led to that now infamous Facebook bikini photo.
"Willow took that photo," Pinkett Smith said. "She said, 'Mommy, you look so beautiful in this picture.' I couldn't really see it, but I was so charmed that that's how she sees her mother. I'm getting teary thinking about it now. Because when your kids get to be teenagers, they can get a little rough on you, you know what I mean?"
While she can still flaunt her bikini bod, Pinkett Smith, who turned 43 Thursday, said she's accepted getting older.
"It is what it is! I'm getting older! I've never looked at myself as, like, a beauty. I'm not sore on the eye, but I know there's always going to be somebody more beautiful-always," she told Health. "My grandmother used to say to me, 'It's not about what you look like on the outside. It's what you look like on the inside.' So she helped me learn at an early age to be well-rounded, to be spiritual, to be compassionate."