Recovered 1950s Dating Guide Advises Women Appropriate Restaurant Behavior

An uncovered dating guide for women from the 1950s delivers some pretty antiquated advice on how to properly behave in a restaurant.

Ladies, take note: "The first thing to remember when eating out with a man, whether he is your father, brother or boyfriend, is that a man always does the ordering. Never ask the waiter anything for yourself," said a copy of British magazine Woman's Own.

Wait, what?

A dating guide from the magazine that dates back to 1950 was recently recovered and shared by, and the suggestions are pretty hilarious come 2014.

Advice such as: "Women should be very careful not to leave lipstick marks on napkins and cups; this is in bad taste," and "Nothing infuriates a man more than the woman who continually smokes his cigarettes" are just a few of the gems from this antiquated guide.

"It's so much fun when you read back on it. It's really interesting to see just how much women's attitudes toward dating have changed," Woman's Own's deputy entertainment editor Sarah Morton said.

A dinner date was apparently a minefield for mistakes, so the piece describes in painstaking detail the differing and specific ways to eat asparagus, celery, cheese, fruit, fish, butter and bread.

"Women's attitudes nowadays is now not so much how to please or find a man. It's more about pleasing and bettering yourself, so that's what we focus on now," Morton said.

If you are interested, though, in how to properly eat those foods in October 1950, read on. We'll consider ourselves lucky not to have to memorize these procedures.

  • Asparagus: "There are certain foods which are eaten in a manner entirely different from others. For instance, asparagus is one of the few foods which can be eaten with fingers. Never use a knife and fork with it, but pick it up in the fingers and dip carefully into the sauce; place the stalks on the small plate at the side."
  • Celery: "Celery can be eaten quite correctly with the fingers, providing it has been carefully cut up into reasonably small pieces beforehand."
  • Cheese: "When eating cheese you should cut off a small piece with the knife and place it carefully on to a small piece of bread; cheese should never be eaten with a fork."
  • Fruit: "Fruits cause some embarrassment in restaurants … Cherries should be put in the mouth whole, and the stones carefully placed on to a spoon. Plums and other large fruits with stones should be dissected in the dish and the stone placed at the side."
  • Fish: "Fish can be difficult to manage, but if you simply pull aside the meat and carefully lift out the bone with your fork, placing it on the side of the plate, it is much easier."
  • Bread and butter: "If a communal dish of butter is provided, help yourself to a portion and put it on the side of your bread plate. Keep one knife on the plate purely for the purpose of buttering your bread."