Sep 26, 2011 10:32am

Patti Stanger Criticizes Smart Single Women, Jews, Gays

gty patti stanger ll 110926 wblog Patti Stanger Criticizes Smart Single Women, Jews, Gays

"Millionaire Matchmaker" Patti Stanger has come under fire for controversial comments.

UPDATE: Late Monday, Stanger apologized for the comments she made about Jews and homosexuals on Sunday’s edition of the Bravo show “Watch What Happens Live.” “I am so sorry,” she said. “I did not mean to offend anyone with my comments last night on ‘Watch What Happens Live.’”

She also apologized on Twitter, writing “So sorry — didn’t mean to offend anyone,” but stood by her claim that gay men avoid monogamy, writing “…It’s true LA gays toughest nuts to crack to monogamy!”

A Bravo rep also issued an apology on behalf of the network: “Bravo regrets the comments expressed by Patti Stanger on ‘Watch What Happens Live’ last night.  Her comments are not representative of the network’s beliefs and opinions.  We apologize for the offense it caused.”

ORIGINAL POST: Gays, Jews, and smart single women, take note: The “Millionaire Matchmaker” might have a problem with you.

On Sunday, Patti Stanger, the host of Bravo’s “Millionaire Matchmaker” and the self-proclaimed love and marriage guru, questioned the values of Jewish and gay men.

Appearing on Bravo’s call in show ”Watch What Happens Live,” Stanger talked about open long distance relationships and monogamy, saying “In the gay world, it will always be open. … There is no curbing the gay man.” She then turned to host Andy Cohen, who is openly gay, and said, “I have tried to curb ‘you people.’”  When Cohen replied, “I am a gay and am down for the monogamy,” Stanger laughed and shot back, “When was the last time you had a boyfriend?”

She also proclaimed, “Jewish men lie.”

Late last week, the 50-year-old “third generation matchmaker” laid into the women of New York for being too brainy.

“Women are smart in business and dumb in love,” Stanger told the hosts of the TV show “New York Live,” regarding New York’s single females. “They won’t date outside their zip code, let alone outside the city. They are city snobs. Real men that are making money in this economy are buying homes in short sales and foreclosures out in the suburbs, getting their homestead set up for their families, and [women say] ‘I won’t go to Connecticut.’ This is where the men are.”

She went on to suggest that New York women — actually, women the world over — ought to avoid multisyllabic words and mention of their SAT scores before walking down the aisle.

“They don’t like them before they are married,” she said, referring to how men feel about smart women. “You’ve got to dumb it down a little because men are not that bright.”

Given her recent comments, perhaps Stanger’s not that bright.

User Comments

She says that Jewish men lie. I guess no other men lie. It seems to be in style to slam the Jews whenever you get a chance. Muslim men don’t lie, huh? Christian men don’t lie? Black men don’t lie? White men don’t lie? White and black women don’t lie? And certainly Palestinians, the professional victims, don’t lie, do they?

Posted by: Roscoe Chait | September 26, 2011, 12:03 pm 12:03 pm

Why on earth would ANYONE put any stock in what this person says? A “self proclaimed love and marriage guru”? The utter tripe that is reality programming really scrapes the bottom of the barrel with this person’s show……….

Posted by: Searambler | September 26, 2011, 12:18 pm 12:18 pm

Brilliant, taking love and marriage advice from a 50 year old woman who never married………………

Posted by: Searambler | September 26, 2011, 12:20 pm 12:20 pm

Incidentally, I’d rather live alone in a van down by the river than with a millionaire who was scared of a woman who might be smarter than him. Boring and insecure aren’t what I’m looking for in a mate.

Posted by: JrzWrld | September 26, 2011, 12:21 pm 12:21 pm

Apparently, this woman is one more reason why I don’t have cable or satellite television. Never even heard of her, so I don’t really care much for what she might have to say on any subject.

Posted by: WorkingClass | September 26, 2011, 12:35 pm 12:35 pm

another “real housewive”…..no thanks

Posted by: Tom, Long Beach, Cal | September 26, 2011, 12:41 pm 12:41 pm

Does anyone take this bafoon seriously? Really/ Give me a break.

Posted by: Linda | September 26, 2011, 12:42 pm 12:42 pm

Seriously you wouldn’t take the advice of someone telling me how to raise your children who never raised any themselves…same thing applies here -why on earth do people think a 50 yr woman, never married, can offer any type of relationship advice except how to stay single.

Posted by: Cammila | September 26, 2011, 12:49 pm 12:49 pm

Wow – obviously Patti is stuck in the time she was born in, the ’60s! Considering she’s a matchmaker who’s not married, I think I’ll do the opposite of what she advises. Maybe if she dropped the racial, and gender, blanket judgements then she’d open herself up to finding a man….

Posted by: Annoyed | September 26, 2011, 12:55 pm 12:55 pm

Yuck.

Posted by: Brad | September 26, 2011, 12:55 pm 12:55 pm

Patti might try applying the appropriate circumspect toward aspects of her life that she expects her perspective clients to apply to theirs. Those who can,do. Those who can’t teach.

Posted by: Denese | September 26, 2011, 12:57 pm 12:57 pm

Ms. Patti Stanger – the self-proclaimed love and marriage guru. Enough said. Yeah and I’m the self-proclaimed King of all Kings.

Posted by: Get_Down | September 26, 2011, 1:00 pm 1:00 pm

Congrats, don’t think she missed offending anyone!

Posted by: Kal albert | September 26, 2011, 1:16 pm 1:16 pm

She’s soooo lame!

Posted by: EZ | September 26, 2011, 1:25 pm 1:25 pm

Praying for curbing fails miserably. LOL

Posted by: Jenn | September 26, 2011, 1:33 pm 1:33 pm

Patti who? Who cares?

Posted by: drake | September 26, 2011, 1:33 pm 1:33 pm

Isn’t she just a bundle of joy and intellegence. There IS a reason – people do what they do for a profession. “And by HIS words, so shall a man be known” . . . . fit’s don’t it?

Posted by: karen | September 26, 2011, 1:41 pm 1:41 pm

Jewish men lie?!?!? Is she kidding? I’m surprised she didn’t go further and say black men steal or Asians are sneaky. I can’t believe millionaires pay this woman!!

Posted by: Denise | September 26, 2011, 1:42 pm 1:42 pm

Frankly, in light of today’s crybaby, political correctness, I find someone willing to speak their mind refreshing, whether or not I agree with their opinions.

Posted by: Brian Levine | September 26, 2011, 1:57 pm 1:57 pm

if anyone out there dosent understand the word JAP they will now. she has exposed herself and what she really is JAP need anyone say more.

Posted by: tacnacs | September 26, 2011, 2:01 pm 2:01 pm

Why would anyone go to this horrid woman for a love match? 50 years old, never married, screams at women for the way they dress yet she dresses like a 20-year mall rat, and none of her matches work! Despite claiming a high success rate, every show ends with failure.

She also is one to talk about lying. Be truthful about your plastic surgery, Patti. Your whole face, including your trout mouth, looks different this year – not just your eyes. Dreadful woman.

Posted by: esliemd | September 26, 2011, 2:06 pm 2:06 pm

What an ignorant shrew.

Posted by: mijoje1 | September 26, 2011, 2:13 pm 2:13 pm

Meh.

Posted by: Single in Seattle | September 26, 2011, 2:17 pm 2:17 pm

So, just based on the comments here – why in the hell does she even have a show?!?!?

Posted by: Searambler | September 26, 2011, 2:27 pm 2:27 pm

What a screwball.

Posted by: Tammy | September 26, 2011, 2:29 pm 2:29 pm

My jewish mom grew up in a mostly jewish neighborhood in the bronx during the 50s and 60s. It’s funny, because she has basically said the same thing about jewish men many times over. haha. and how she always liked the catholic boys growing up because they didn’t lie. Anyway, remember that Patti Stranger is jewish, so its not like what she was saying is anti jewish. Further, she was just stating a tendency, and instead stated it as an all out fact. Then again, maybe I lied about this whole story? (I didn’t.)

Posted by: robert | September 26, 2011, 2:38 pm 2:38 pm

The people she really should be criticizing are her plastic surgeon and the manufacturers of tanning beds.

Posted by: Tillie H | September 26, 2011, 2:40 pm 2:40 pm

I love her show…its a guilty pleasure. She has some hot messes on there, thats for sure!!!

Posted by: manda81305 | September 26, 2011, 2:52 pm 2:52 pm

She can say anything she wants with a smile like that.

Posted by: Michael Sexton | September 26, 2011, 2:55 pm 2:55 pm

Stereotyping millions of Americans like that is dehumanizing and reprehensible. I’m guessing her show will be gone soon. I am straight and I love smart women, I’ve known countless monogamous gay male couples (many with children) and many honest Jewish men. Stating that a person is a certain way because of what group they are in denied individuality and indicates a weak mind.

Posted by: Jed | September 26, 2011, 3:03 pm 3:03 pm

I thought she was Jewish herself no?
Anyway she is likable person, she projects a perfect image of a tough exterior, soft interior type personality. Her show is one of the only few shows still fun to watch.

Posted by: tom | September 26, 2011, 3:17 pm 3:17 pm

I used to watch her show every now and then for entertainment (not advice!) but man, never again! Won’t dignify her ridiculous outlook on humanity with ratings.

Posted by: Smart Woman | September 26, 2011, 3:28 pm 3:28 pm

Because she’s Jewish she can get away with slamming her own. My problem with her (and it’s not really a problem), she is SINGLE, she ‘CAN’T KEEP A MAN”, yet she has a matchmaking show and people actually listen to her.

Posted by: Clt | September 26, 2011, 3:29 pm 3:29 pm

I used to think she was kind of funny. However, I don’t think I could ever watch her show again without thinking about these hateful, moronic comments. Give Bravo TV the Barbara-Walters-I-Put-Idiots-On-Television-And-Let-Them-Give-Their-Opinions Award for 2011.

Posted by: Jessie | September 26, 2011, 3:41 pm 3:41 pm

Stanger is a cave troll. Her show is hideous. I hope her career is over because of her comments on gay men, straight men, and intelligent women.

Posted by: Bob | September 26, 2011, 3:43 pm 3:43 pm

This woman flip flops so much I don’t see how she keeps up with herself. I used to like her, but this season ( like all of Bravo’s shows) she has become nasty. I like Andy but I am losing all respect for him. I also find it odd for jewish woman to slam her own. Goes to show she doesn’t have a loyal bone is her botox body.

Posted by: Tn Viewer | September 26, 2011, 3:56 pm 3:56 pm

During the 50′s and 60′s men on TV would instruct us that women were not that bright. The misogynist of the day.
Now we have Stanger instructing us that men are not that bright. The misandrist of this era.
Who was right, the misogynists or the misandrists?

Posted by: Good Idea | September 26, 2011, 4:06 pm 4:06 pm

I wanna have her baby.

Posted by: Michael Sexton | September 26, 2011, 4:14 pm 4:14 pm

Watch her show before you judge. She is good at what she does and it entertaining on some of the crappy millonaire men and women she gets on the show. She tells it like it is and basically sometimes she is completely right.

Posted by: loudmouthgirl | September 26, 2011, 4:16 pm 4:16 pm

Is Patti Stanger a man?

Posted by: RAN | September 26, 2011, 4:28 pm 4:28 pm

This woman is good at only one thing–getting attention, and apparently she’s so desperate for it that she’ll say stupid things (but hey, it’s good for women to act stupid) even if it offends. Of course soon she’ll get even more attention by making the talk show circuit to apologize. Mr. Cohen’s reaction was good, but should have been stronger—he should have outright told her she was being an idiot. That might stunned her into speechlessness—but probably not for long. The network that carries her show needs to permanently render her speechless by saying “goodbye” and turning off the camera.

Posted by: meercat55 | September 26, 2011, 4:37 pm 4:37 pm

Who is this person, and why does what she says matter?

Posted by: Bizarro7 | September 26, 2011, 4:38 pm 4:38 pm

Ahhhhh….again shows people don’t want to hear the truth and will attack messenger for saying it.

Posted by: You know it is true | September 26, 2011, 4:38 pm 4:38 pm

I have to agree with her on the gay man thing…………..

Posted by: Ruth | September 26, 2011, 4:43 pm 4:43 pm

What she says is offensive to people because she tells it like it is. She speaks as if saying “ALL gay men…”, “ALL Jewish men…”, but she knows and anyone who has seen her talk knows that she is speaking in generalities and generally -she is RIGHT! To quote Jack Nicholson “YOU CAN’T HANDLE THE TRUTH!”

Posted by: Ger | September 26, 2011, 4:45 pm 4:45 pm

OMG she went after the “protected class” and treated them like real people.
How could she do that??????
I know that ABC is incensed that she did not fawn on gay men, like they do, but she may have more real experience with them as people and not just ratings numbers.
You go to her for help and all you want is sweet platitudes? Your mom can give you that.
She did not “question the values” and if you did your homework you would know that.
Stop pandering and start being a news organization again. No wonder people are going to cable news.

Posted by: Wendel | September 26, 2011, 4:54 pm 4:54 pm

Patti’s funny!!! People need to quit being so sensitive, geez!

Posted by: ptrish | September 26, 2011, 4:58 pm 4:58 pm

Is Mel Gibson somewhere nearby?

Posted by: SisMarCat | September 26, 2011, 5:05 pm 5:05 pm

Um, i saw her on the show last night and your taking her words out of context. Yes, she said those things, but in a joking manner between her and the host, Andy Cohen. I found it irresponsible of you to write about it, when really you should just the show the videa. Two different meanings.

Posted by: del | September 26, 2011, 5:19 pm 5:19 pm

seems the one lacking “brightness” is you Patti

Posted by: Sean | September 26, 2011, 5:23 pm 5:23 pm

She is a joke, she claims a 99% success rate in matchmaking yet after watching 2 seasons, I can’t name one match. I enjoy watching train wrecks for some reason so I keep watching. My newest laugh has been that “jeff lewis” wrinkly double flap top lip that she tries to overly pout. I dub it the “Bravo network lip” . I love to tune in to see who she will insult next. She criticizes peoples looks but DANGGG, look in the mirror you drag queen wanna be! Quit trying to make people what they are not. Fundamentally people are who they are and need to find a mate who likes them for who they are…

Posted by: mzepess | September 26, 2011, 5:31 pm 5:31 pm

“And by HIS words, so shall a man be known” . . . .——————”Works” not “words” .

Posted by: Smarter_Voter1 | September 26, 2011, 5:37 pm 5:37 pm

Incidently, Patty Stanger is Jewish AND a woman in case no one knows. She is allowed to bash Jewish men and women, but not Gays.. no one said she was bright, but she surely makes a lot of money! She’s also married and it took a long time for her to make a commitment. She’s had her mother on the show. Her sidekicks are Jewish and christian and are married. Patty is just ignorant of today’s world.

Posted by: ohwell | September 26, 2011, 6:23 pm 6:23 pm

FOR ALL YOU “INTELLIGENT” PEOPLE, PATTY IS MARRIED! Keep up will ya?

Posted by: ohwell | September 26, 2011, 6:29 pm 6:29 pm

Ohwell
She’s not married. Didn’t even get left at the alter. I realize it may be difficult, but try and keep up. It’s one of the reasons why she said Jewish men lie. Because, as far as she was concerned, hers did.

Posted by: POV | September 26, 2011, 7:01 pm 7:01 pm

Of course New York women are angry. They’re in New York. And she does have a point about not dating outside their zip code.
I have to commend Andy. The only indication that he showed he was furious with her was saying that they were going to talk after the show.
One bright spot on all of this. If men like women who aren’t too bright, after last night’s show, she should have them lined up around the block.

Posted by: POV | September 26, 2011, 7:05 pm 7:05 pm

Pattie Stanger is not married. Her engagement was called off on August 14, 2010. She wanted children and her ex-fiance did not. At age 50, the idea of pregnancy seems to be a bit late. She is closer to menopause than the maternity ward. As for her success rate in matchmaking, it seems to be lacking in the shows I’ve seen over the last 3 seasons.

Posted by: Sylvia Rivera | September 26, 2011, 7:07 pm 7:07 pm

This women is sic in her head! She does know however that all she is getting is attention, which she needs for the show to continue and her job safe. She thinks she is perfect, yet has a need to bash others. Do You watch her show? I have, and it was like seeing a mother controling her kids and making them do what she says, and make sure You did it yesterday is not fast enough. Plus SHE IS SINGLE HELLO?

Posted by: Susan | September 26, 2011, 7:51 pm 7:51 pm

This is coming from someone who was once engaged but her fiance was wise enough to break up with her. If I were to engage in the services of a matchmaker, I would trust this person has been in a stable marriage for quite some time before giving advice to any single person. I have watched these shows and she can be very caustic about others’ looks….well look at yourself in the mirror, Patti, you are not all that and a bag of chips! I am no longer watching this show.

Posted by: Susan | September 26, 2011, 8:10 pm 8:10 pm

She actually makes money doing this?

Posted by: George | September 26, 2011, 8:30 pm 8:30 pm

Huh… she said all that?? And she places importance of a man’s financial portfolio over his heart, his loyalty, his love?

Oh….Must be a Teabagger.

Posted by: Catt Cantu | September 26, 2011, 9:51 pm 9:51 pm

I was watching that.. and when she said that about gay men, I was like “did she really just say that?” I was wondering if the media would pick up on it. That was very insensitive of her.

Posted by: Cherfer | September 26, 2011, 10:00 pm 10:00 pm

This woman only opens her mouth to change feet.

Posted by: lomita Momcat | September 26, 2011, 10:45 pm 10:45 pm

I watched this last night and wondered if she shot herself in the foot, but at the same time I wonder if creating a little controversy would get her name out there? Oldest trick in the book.

Posted by: JamesOnly | September 26, 2011, 10:47 pm 10:47 pm

Keep posting your thoughts. The producers will eventually see that they are wasting their money on this failure and will cut her show off. Then she will keep on taking the Millionaires’ money for nothing.

Posted by: Whateva | September 26, 2011, 10:52 pm 10:52 pm

Being angry is DEFINITELY NOT an attractive quality. Poor thing.

Posted by: JWC | September 26, 2011, 10:53 pm 10:53 pm

Searambler…hilarious! Chris Farley was awesome & so was your comment lmao

Posted by: HB | September 26, 2011, 11:41 pm 11:41 pm

generally i think the whole ‘pc’ thing is getting out of control and people just need to relax about other’s comments. but this woman is disgusting. she is the biggest hypocrate. she was with her boyfriend for 5+ years before getting engaged and then never made it down the aisle (smart guy!), and she is constantly berating her clients for their fear of commitment, lack of dating skills and inability to maintain relationships. and hardly any of her set-ups even work. anyone who pays this woman money to get fixed-up needs seriousl help!

Posted by: DB | September 27, 2011, 12:04 am 12:04 am

Funny, just about every person ive spent enough time around eventually shows theyre inner thoughts. Most people think just like Patti when they think they cant get in trouble for it. I guarantee you get to know alot of these ‘commentors’ and youll find that theyre chalked full of stereotypes that would offend someone,somewhere. No one is exempt. Alot of gay’s are offended by Patti, wich is fine, but I work around people who are gay and some of them can be some serious stereotypers…..Lets face it, she’s only being hated on for being ‘out and honest’ with how she feels.
….hmm ‘out and honest’….shame on her!

Posted by: jerry | September 27, 2011, 1:30 am 1:30 am

Well.., this bit–, has her say, like always. Never married, wonder why ? I’ll give you a guess.., she is a total bit–, with a very BIG mouth. I hope they do cancel her show and we never see her again. It’s funny, Patti Stanger is Jewish and has said something about Jewish men, which will NOT sit well within the Jewish community. Patti has done a lot for the gay community in general, so her comments, even caught me off guard. Once again, Patti big mouth.. The intelligent women in New York.., Patti is also right on that one, too. With all said.., I hope they cancel her show. Some people get to big for their pants and thats exactly what happened to Patti Stanger. ‘Miss Know It All.., put her foot into her mouth, again.. Mike in Montana

Posted by: Mike in Montana | September 27, 2011, 3:18 am 3:18 am

When I had cable, I watched her 1 time and she came off as an arrogant know it all. However, I now know why she is single herself and never married.

Posted by: sybase46 | September 27, 2011, 6:14 am 6:14 am

Disgusting. Repeated slurs. She thinks she’s above it all and can judge everyone else. She should be canned immediately.

Posted by: hopesprings52 | September 27, 2011, 10:32 am 10:32 am

Patti Stanger offends me just by looking the way she does. If anyone could turn gay which i don’t believe dating her would do it woof in a bad way

Posted by: Geoff | September 28, 2011, 7:21 am 7:21 am

people just don’t want the truth anymore . I’m not always impressed by Patty and she is a little bit on the tacky side BUT she does get it right most of the time.
Now people get offended by the truth ,how silly . Everyone is “OFFENDED” by something !
GET OVER IT !
If you don’t want the TRUTH ,don’t ask for it ! What Patty says was RIGHT !

Posted by: jj | October 13, 2011, 1:50 pm 1:50 pm

I wish to point out my passion for your kindness for individuals who absolutely need guidance on this particular subject matter. Your special dedication to getting the solution throughout came to be rather powerful and have in most cases encouraged men and women just like me to achieve their dreams. Your own important tips and hints can mean a great deal to me and far more to my colleagues. Warm regards; from each one of us.

Posted by: Dorian Grocott | October 20, 2011, 12:46 pm 12:46 pm

What a surprise! Another bitter NYC female shooting off her dumb mouth.

Posted by: Baldheaded baby | October 24, 2011, 9:00 pm 9:00 pm

I am actually watching it right now for the first time and this absolutely ridiculous. I have come to the conclusion that she is only a “millionaire matchmaker” because the rich pay her and that is where she makes all her money. She bashes on people for fashion, brains, their lifestyle, occupations, etc. wtf does all that have to do with matchmaking? Her show is pathetic. Time to turn the channel.

Posted by: Sadie1447 | November 25, 2011, 6:30 pm 6:30 pm

She is Jewish. Apparently everyone is too sensetive to see the sarcastic humor behind it.

Posted by: Jjb | December 22, 2011, 2:02 am 2:02 am

Hey she knows her business doesn’t she? She is telling the truth, hard as it is to swallow. I am Jewish and yes I have to admit I Iie to women to get what I want from them. And I have no intentions of being monogamous even if I get married. That’s the reality of it. I never say I am a one woman man or am completely honest about anything. That’s too dangerous.

Posted by: Aaron | January 22, 2012, 3:15 am 3:15 am

I like her show. I think most of the time she is right. I don’t always agree with her views, but her show is fun to watch. Way better than Bachelor/ette, Real Housewives, Kardashians, Jersey Shore and the like. And she does talk a lot, but seldom in a non sense kinda way. People who doesn’t like her don’t have to watch her show. Plain and simple. I like her show and I want to keep watching it.

Posted by: Jane | January 29, 2012, 1:21 am 1:21 am

Wow – just wow. First of all, if you think she’s a loser then why are you wasting time here posting a comment? Patti is a sassy, bawdy chick who speaks her mind and who i’d bet is friends with enough gays and Jews to fill madison square garden. So she’s allowed to say these things because these groups are NOT offended by her. Smart, brainy Jewish women ARE like her. And gay men LOVE her. It’s like Kathy Griffin talking about “her gays” or Jackie Mason making Jew jokes…its OK! really! It’s like Chris Rock or Dave Chappelle making fun of black culture – it’s OK! People making these posts here are kind of like men thinking they should have any kind of say in abortion matters. Middle American hicks who eat potatoes from a box and think Sizzler is the ultimate in dining out – THIS DOES NOT APPLY TO YOU. The people it applies to probably think it’s funny and moved on after a quick chuckle, if anything. When you’re a sassy, opinionated broad and that’s her occupation by the way…then it’s par for the course, and it’s not offending anyone if the people she’s speaking about can relate to her. And they can. Most smart Jewish chicks and smart, savvy gay men have WAY better things to do than take offense at another smart, savvy chick. Trust me, they are not mad. So why should you be?

Enjoy your night out at Sizzler.

Posted by: massesrasses | March 25, 2012, 2:50 am 2:50 am

Leave a Reply

Do you have more information about this topic? If so, please click here to contact the editors of ABC News.