Dr. Emil Chynn wants to get married. In fact, he’s offering tens of thousands of dollars to whoever helps him find the woman of his dreams.
“I want to settle down. I want to retire soon,” he told ABC News. “And I want to get married and have kids.”
So last week he placed an eye-catching personal ad in Columbia University’s alumni magazine, in order to, in his words, “outsource” the work of finding a mate.
The advert in the Spring 2012 issue of the magazine reads:
“LASEK SURGEON: Featured in NY Times/Wall Street Journal. Dartmouth, Columbia, Harvard, Emory, NYU degrees. Seeks smart, sweet, skinny SWF, 30, for marriage. $10,000 donation to your charity for intro! dr@ParkAvenueLasek.com.”
Ten thousand dollars may seem like a lot, but Dr. Chynn, 45, says it’s nothing compared with what he’s spent in the past several years looking for a wife. He chose that number because, as he says, it’s what a good matchmaker in New York City charges – and he’s already paid that several times over, using about six different high-end matchmakers over the years.
“I paid this one matchmaker $10,000, and I dated a girl he set me up with for a bit, but it didn’t end up working out,” Chynn said in an interview with ABC News. “And that matchmaker was kind of a jerk. So I figured, instead of paying some random guy that money, I’ll narrow my pool and then give the money to charity.”
Dr. Chynn runs Park Avenue Lasek, a surgical practice he says brings in the money to pay for his search for love, but leaves him with no time to find a partner in the more traditional ways.
“I’m busy. I don’t have time to go out to a bar,” he said. “I have parameters and I can’t be sure I’ll find someone who meets them by going to a bar.”
These parameters include: non-smoker, intellectually curious, wants children but doesn’t have any yet, around 30, pretty, skinny and white. He believes those last two parameters are the ones that are making his search so difficult.
It’s not always easy finding love, especially with all the demands of a full time career, but for Dr. Chynn, and many Americans like him, it is a priority. People spend millions of dollars every year on websites designed to help them find partners, matchmaking services, speed dating events, etc. And that’s not even counting the money people spend on clothes, gyms, grooming and bar tabs searching for “the one.”
Dr. Chynn says with limited time and plentiful means, outsourcing his love life seemed like the most practical way to find her. This personal ad is just the latest of his attempts to find a wife.
The search started in earnest when he was an MBA student at NYU in 2004, and began spreading word among his classmates that he was ready to mingle. In what he calls “true business school fashion,” the other students began asking what was in it for them if they were to set him up. So he decided to make finding him dates worth their while, offering $100 per date for the first ten dates, $10,000 for an engagement, and $10,000 for a wedding (the two $10,000 payments were offered by his parents, who are “desperate” for him to get married).
Two years ago, he placed an ad looking for an assistant, offering whoever got the job a $10,000 bonus for finding him a wife. (That assistant also had a few other unusual responsibilities, including “back-walking,” that is, walking on his back as a form of massage.)
He paid a woman $100 to write his Match.com profile (his membership to the website was a gift to him from his assistant), and paid a man $100 per woman to correspond with his matches, until he got a phone number, at which point Chynn took over the correspondence.
He’s even used Eastern European matchmaking and marriage services, particularly those in Ukraine, where he travels once a year.
None of the dates that came out of these previous attempts at “outsourcing” his love life have worked, but he’s hoping this one will.
“The responses I’ve gotten so far have been so positive,” he says, “I think I’m going to put the ad in the alumni papers of the four other schools I went to!”
A quick Google search by his prospective dates might prove problematic for his chances, as Chynn has been profiled on several websites in the past few years, including for his aforementioned ad for an assistant and a one-man campaign he ran against one of his neighbors, who didn’t fix up her run-down building. He says the negative publicity hasn’t helped his search, but he doesn’t think it’ll ruin his chances with the right woman.
Despite the big bucks and unusual methods, Chynn insists he’s just a normal guy looking for love in a big city.