Gwyneth Paltrow Enters the Mommy Wars: ‘Compromise…To Be a Wife’

It looks like Paltrow has been confronted with reality.

Truth be told, women run households better than men. They raise children, typically, usually, there are always exceptions but yes, they tend to be better with children, more in tune with their needs and after children, men tend to be more like the children than someone who is goign to take control and take care of the children and the household. It’s important to choose VERY wisely who you have children with, as a women, because you do sacrifice your career to put your emphasis on the family, on the marriage, to make it work ,and that makes you vulnerable. So…choose wisely. because whomever you’re relying on to support you while you’re vulnerable, well, do you really trust them???? If not, do not marry and do not even think of having children with them. When a women is divorced her likelihood to fall into poverty is over 85%. Women have children ad even i f they never thought they would before the children, once they have them, they feel this instinctive drive to prioritize the children. It’s probably a gene, a function, an instinct that helped humans survive the past 30,000 years.

Not just women, but men are also making compromises these days. Because of the economy, the wife is sometimes the one employed or with the better job and they have to move for her job -yes, i know people like this. Marriage is all about Compromise. it is not a matter or ME ME ME, but what is best for the family. The famous couple to look at are Kevin Bacon and Kyra Sedgwick. They have both compromised depending upon the job.

Wow, DAVEM… There have been plenty of studies that show that full-time working mothers spend more QUALITY time with their children when they are home. I know plenty of stay-at-home moms who do nothing but yell at their kids all day and play on Facebook. Not all stay-at-home moms are like that, and not all working moms are out drinking and partying all the time. I work full time, my husband’s a stay-at-home dad. I spend every minute I can with my son and I love it. I never go out. But it’s by choice, I don’t want to go out, I would rather be home with my son. He is very well adjusted and very funny and happy (and extremely smart). I wonder if your comment is just to get a rise out of people. There aren’t many families that can afford to have a stay-at-home parent these days. Things were different 30/40/50 years ago.

Correct, ever notice when marriage started to fall apart is when both parents started working 40+ hours a week. People have kids just to say they have them. If you have to ship them off to daycare what’s the point of having them, your not raising them somebody else is and is imprinting their beliefs and morals on them not the parent. Childcare has your kid awake 9+ hours a day, parent has them awake for about 3 to 4 hours so who is really rasing them.

I make it work. When my wife told me she wanted quit work and stay home after our son was born I was a little nerves. I don’t have nearly the income that Mrs. Paltrow has and the first few months were edgy but we have adjusted to our new life style. That is sacrificing material things to devote quality time with our son. It has been the best decision we have ever made and it wasn’t even mine. It was my wife’s. I don’t care about these feminist trying to fill the young women of America with junk. A child needs its mother if not all of the time then most of the time. Not some day care provider watching 25 other kids while yours is crying in the corner. Raise your children don’t let someone else. Mrs. Paltrow seems to be a very busy woman but it does sound like she has her priorities straight. I am just saying.

I laugh when I hear people working saying they are great parents because they spend 2hours of quality time with their child at night and the other 10+ hours they were with strangers teaching them their beliefs and morals. And when that child get hurts or wants some attention they don’t have to wait until the daycare person attends the other 15 kids needs first before they get to them.

AB–how can a fulltime working mother spend more quality with their child then a stay-at-home mom. You pick your child up at 6:00 from daycare, I assume you need to change and get dinner ready unless you stopped at McD’s on the way home and get settled in the most time you can get in before your child goes to sleep is 2-3 hours with them and I doubt the hours are total devouted to your child. That would mean ignoring your husband, not watching tv, no texting, and no computer kids not in any activities….But hey, as long as you believe you are I guess that’s all that matters not your child.

DONTUNDERSTAND – My son doesn’t go to daycare (as I said in my previous post, my husband stays home). And I have adjusted my work schedule to be home by 3:30. I make dinner at home, we don’t eat out. My son helps me with dinner. I have a good 5 and a half hours before he goes to bed. My husband and I spend the time TOGETHER with our son. We DON’T text, play on the Internet, etc. When I say more QUALITY time, I mean that I don’t sit around doing nothing while my son plays alone. I play with him, we play games and do puzzles. We run around the house and play hide-and-seek. My husband is very involved. My child means everything to me. Someone has to earn money, right? When did housing and groceries become free? My husband stays home, I work. It’s no different than if I were a stay-at-home mom and he worked. Like I said before, the majority of stay-at-home moms that I know are mean and lazy and their kids have very little interaction with them during the day. They scream and yell and bark orders at them all day. Their kids are horrible brats. I may not be home during the day, but my husband is. I wouldn’t have married him if I didn’t have the same values as him.

hey, it’s just her priorities is all, she is putting her family first nothing wrong with that. If you have a problem with it then your the one with the problem.

Pay me and I’ll stay home with the kids instead of working outside the home!

C–I guess you should take your own advice…….lol

I’m a tad bit baffled by this article because I have not seen 1 quote yet where Gwyneth Paltrow made a judgement on other mothers. She gave an opinion about her family and her lifestyle. That comment doesn’t point a finger at anyone’s lifestyle that isn’t just like hers – that just seems to be what ppl are reading into it. Wealth or the lack thereof has nothing to do with her statements on marriage and motherhood. Its clear that she’s not sitting at home twindling her thumbs and waiting for her hubby since we watch her movies and see her on red carpets. She’s simply commenting on how to keep her family a family and she could not be more correct. It is not possible to maintain a marriage or family if you are never there to put in face time. Her putting in face time has nothing to do with her weath just as it has nothing to do with the average mother/wife’s lack of wealth. She didn’t imply that women should schedule their entire day around their husbands. I think these ladies are taking this completely out of context and making negative a statement someone made about themselves and not about anyone else’s home life. This is ridiculous.

The woman talks about her family, what is working for her, and about a solicited advice to a friend. That’s her opinion, she’s not telling all the women in the world to do like her. I’m a working mother, yet don’t feel a bit offended by her comments. What has this world come to?

This is really unfair. All the quotes are arranged so terribly out of context. If I took the beginning of a sentence and the end of a sentence and left out the middle, I could make a quote say anything I want.

ABC, I expect better.

Why is this an outrage? Is it an outrage to say that a man must compromise to be a good husband? Double standard, much?

Every woman knows her place is on the pedestal.

Lord–why can’t somebody say something without people picking it to pieces and taking it personally? Seriously–when we’ve got the kinds of problems we have in this country, Paltrow’s views on family should be read, contemplated (if one wants), and then forgotten. Geesh.

A women (Gwen) decides she should make a compromise to improvie her marriage and benefit her family. How scandalous! Don’t you know, women should never compromise to please their husbands! They should get everything their way and their husband should be happy to do all the compromising himself. -(/sarc off) Reading the outrage here, I find it amazing that men even marry at all these days.

Happy stay at home mom for 16 years. Three children. One husband. Worked, traveled 9 years before I married and had children. Leave Mrs Paltrow-Martin alone. She can say what works for her. I have no jealousy for her lifestyle, nanny, or other hired help. A wise person once told me ” whoever teaches your child to talk, teaches your child to THINK.” I wanted to be there with each of my children, talking to them, reading to them, singing, playing, all the things that promote understanding, thought, and eventually talking. No one can care for your children like YOU can, as a mother ( or dad ). Happy I did what I did. Have three God- fearing, happy, intelligent children. Gifts from God above.