Forget flowers and spa treatments. The stuff moms really want can't be bought.
"What they really want is to be less stressed," said Bruce Feiler, a family expert and author of best seller "The Secrets of Happy Families: Improve Your Mornings, Rethink Family Dinner, Fight Smarter, Go Out and Play, and Much More."
Feiler knows the perfect gifts that promise to give mom the ultimate stress relief - relief that lasts a lot longer than just a day.
Here are four ways to make mom happier:
1) Tackle the hardest part of the day - de-stress mom's morning
"You stop any mom on the street and ask them what's the worst time of the day, they're going to say the morning," Feiler said.
Researchers have found that the highest stress times in families occur in moments of transition. The hour after everybody wakes up in the morning and the hour after everyone comes home in the evening are particularly vulnerable, according to Feiler.
Feiler recommends these additional tips:
Feiler suggested transferring responsibilities to the kids, that way mom doesn't have to nag them to keep on schedule.
"You can assign a child certain days of the week where they are the captains of the morning, so it is their job to actually monitor everybody else to make sure they get the things done," he said.
2) Reduce sibling fights
Studies have shown siblings between the ages of 3 and 7 clash three and a half times per hour.
Feiler addressed this problem in his house with the help of a course from the team at the Harvard Negotiation Project.
Feiler implemented the following actions:
3) Spice up mom's date night
Instead of the usual dinner and a movie, steal an idea from Hollywood hit "500 Days of Summer" and try out karaoke night.
Feiler said if you want to improve your relationship, try something novel with your partner.
Here are some date night ideas:
4) Let her win every argument for a month
All families have conflict and those who control and manage that conflict can make their family happier.
"Tell your wife she can win every argument for a month, what that means is when you're getting it when you're disputing, whatever you're disputing, you get to the point and you say this is your month to win," Feiler said.
Here are some other tips: