Emmanuel Acho on how young people can have uncomfortable conversations

Former NFL player Emmanuel Acho talks about his new book, “Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Boy” and why he decided to write it for a younger audience.
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Former NFL player who has made a new career out of discussing topics as many people avoid Emanuel -- is the host of the webcast uncomfortable conversations with a black man as wells opposed to his two points of season of the bachelor he's now out with a new book uncomfortable conversations with a black boy aimed at discussing systemic racism with a younger audience Emanuel thank you so much for joining us today. The last time you're here you're discussing your New York Times best selling book uncomfortable conversations with a black man tell me what inspired you to Taylor now for younger readers. Yeah Lindsay I think it the crux of the issue and our society is really fixing the route since. I look at it like this if you wanted to change the treaties of this world you could. Slug down believes you could cut down the branches but it's best that you actually address the root and if we want to address the root of racism and aren't aside society. But it stressed we start with the youth Lindsay when I was you know 1213. Fourteen are often heard from the bureau you don't even talk. Like your black a manual you don't even dressed like you're black or Lindsay. Emanuel you're like an Oreo black on the outside why. On the inside so I don't know Robert than identities. Complex that's not. My white counterparts why white peers. We're intentionally trying to be malicious but they did not even know the power of their words I want to write uncomfortable conversations with a black boy. Helped acquit those young white boys and those young white girls to help give parents the words to say to educate their children if they don't have the words. So I must admit I heard those same comments going up is well. I like to ask a question it was it was posed no we did a series recently console the nation there was a question that weekly would be when it was the first time that you realize you were black. I'd like to pose a question to you. So phenomenal question I'm OK we're gonna go beach. There's a difference between color and culture Lindsay so I always knew why was black by skin color. But that dichotomy was. I'm first generation American my parents are born and raised in Nigeria should and so although I was black. By skin color I was cultured Nigerian listening to Nigerian music eating Nigerian boots are going to Nigerian small groups I'm immersed in white culture from grades five to twelve I graduate so. I was black ice skate color but I questioned my black miss because every galactic. Private school what's the be like now leased circuit 2002 with our eye patch however and so the first time I realized I was. The last or fully understood that I was OK being my own verge of being. Probably wasn't who I got. The college. And so I imagine you're talking about being college and perhaps you were a teenager what inside. This book uncommon uncomfortable conversations with a black boy would have been most useful are instructed to you at that time. Everything it got. I can be honest but let me be more honest. Don't coordinate business and structural for meals it would have been all the might not black peers don't have been struck. All over instructive for me as a young black or in the sense of reaffirming my identity but understanding the history of this country and understanding that by being born black. Brown. I am black and brown I don't have to talk a certain white dress a certain way speak at a certain sliding to beat black. Hey you writing your book let me tell you what the movement for racial equality can't afford white allies being fragile about racial issues. So a lot of people are gonna see the book cover has a black boy on a you're talking about on come or can't uncomfortable conversations with black boys. People might not get that I think that your intended audience is for white people as much as it is for black people. Yeah they intended audience is primarily for white people it's primarily. I'm for people who are not of color seat uncomfortable conversation with a black or you simply saying. Allow need to beat a black boy to have a conversation. With you would if you look at the back of the book. It's actually picture of me when I was a child and I happened here is actually got me when I was maybe twelve or thirteen. Because now is an adult I am equipped to have this dialogue. Let me enter into the thirteen year old mindset. And communicate this conversation in which you. And lastly I recently did a story that involves someone who was essentially canceled for using the N word so many people responded on social media basically asking if it's so painful wide a black people use the word. And why don't we all agree not to use this where you address this in the book saying no one should attempt to tell black people otherwise. Certainly this is a hot button issue for many can you explain why you might not agree with a white person who says. No one should use the word period. I don't try to talk about this complex concept of dairy simply. The relationship. Dictates communication. Lindsay your significant other would speak to you when a manner that I should never and would never speak to you in the same manner that my significant other words speak to me in a manner that. No one else should speak to me I would submit. Black people have a relationship. Based upon going through similar things that allows them to communicate in a certain way with that being said. Not all black people think alike. I spoke for one time at length and she said she is repulsed by the network that is often times last word that black boys and black girls heard before they were laced beaten and murdered. So this is not saying one size fits all ideology work here reached but Berry simply. We all understand that in light we can communicate with people differently based. Our relationship. Let's remember we've lived in a society. Over the course of hundreds of years where white people in this country generally speaking. If told black people what they can and cannot do. So now when 20/20 one. You are again trying to say you cannot. Use this word which you all have refrained from the derogatory meaning to actually a term of endearment it could be very reminiscent. Of the olden days in which for so long black before being told what to do. Emanuel podshow fund convert on comfortable conversations little black boys. The available now wherever books are sold we thank you so much for your time mental.

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