#MeToo movement highlights question for parents: How to raise good men

"GMA" brings in experts, parents, boys to discuss raising men who respect women.
7:20 | 12/18/17

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We want to turn to our new series called raising good men.p every day is teams like there are new sexual harassment allegations and what it takes to raise men who will be respectful of women and focus on three different age groups with different takeaways and start with 7 to 10-year-olds and T.J. Holmes sat down with a group of them and enlightening interview. You learn a lot when you talk to kids. Parents watching all these allegations come out and why not. They are asking, I don't want my child to grow up like that so what should I be doing? Are there signs I should be looking for and it's clear their opinions about girls are already starting to take shape. Allegations of sexual harassment. Suspended. Forced to apologize. Reporter: More than two dozen prominent men facing allegations of sexual harassment and sexual misconduct and it prompts the question how do you raise good men. We start with a panel of young boys. What does it mean to be a good man. Treat people fairly. No matter what skin color or gender. Yeah, to open doors for women, you have to respect. We sat down with six students, 7 through 10 at a Houston area boys and girls club, some participants in their passport to manhood program. The word, respect. What do you think when you hear that. Well -- in ooh. Cool. Out of the chair on this one. Yes. Respect means you have to behave. All right. Listen to the teacher. It means personal space, manners. Dr. David Anderson is a child psychologist at New York's child mind institute. When you've got boys this young, it is never too early to start thinking about how you build respect. How you build empathy and a culture of concept. He traveled with us to Houston and unbeknownst to our young panelists their parents and our expert were secretly watching the interview from an adjoining room. Their sons openly sharing with us their views on gender stereotypes. What do you do when someone tells you to man up. I become tough. And I feel strong. They've gotten some of those messages about being rough and tough and, you know, that girls are frail and those kinds of things. As the boys grow older we want to give them a much more diverse idea of what it means to be a goodperson. It's important to be kind for everybody. Important to protect everyone. But even at this age these young man displaying strong convictions about how they believe they should interact with female peers. How do you show girls you respect them? Listening to them and buying them flowers. Say hi to them. Say hi. And by not bumping into them. Keeping personal space. How do you know the boundaries of personal space. You got to ask first. That's key because it showsance age appropriate understanding of consent and the need to ask for permission. When we think about stages of moral development for groups this age, there's a lot of kind of all or nothing thinking. You're either following the rules or you're not. Someone breaking the rules this group showed no hesitation in reporting misconduct. I'll tell my momma. I will tell the teacher. After 45 minutes it was time to reveal to our young guests who was watching their interview. Oh, my goodness. Oh. They just heard everything that just happened. Come on. No. Please. No. I was overall pretty proud, did a good job, kid. You never know when you're doing it by yourself if you're doing a good job. I don't want to take full credit for how respectful he is because my husband has a lot to do with that as well. There are a lot of types he tells cooper, open the door for your mother and sister. Whether it's a female parent or male parent it's catching the boys doing the things that you want to make sure they do more of and that takes being there and having those conversations. Saying I was really proud of how you acted in that moment. With all that's going on in the news a lot of parents were, maybe even single parent, single mothers, how can I raise my child not to end up in that position to be like that? The same principles that we're talking about here, teaching boys to respect other people and to take the perspective of other, they will play into boys' relationships with their partners they get older and want them thinking about how comfortable anybody in their social environment might be with what's going on. It was very interesting to hear, Paula. They find a distinction, I treat girls this way. They're the fairer sex but ask them the toughest person they know, momma. The first thing out of their mouth, momma but trying to how to reconcile how is momma the female so tough. But I can't bump into that girl in the hallway. It was so interesting to hear these kids. You did a great job. We want to bring in Dave Anderson to continue with the conversation. You mentioned the importance of parents and having a positive role model but how do you find good role models and good influencers on your children? I think the first point we think about is that just good people are good role models. Doesn't festally have to be a male or female. We had coaches and teach Evers and one came up with his barber but looking for anybody who can articulate their values. We were trying to figure out, thinking you treat a girl this way, you should make sure you give her these boundaries but the key is not just to teach there is a difference, you need to treat a boy and respect his boundaries and personal space. The you have to treat everybody the same. With whatever the rues were coming up with we want to ask them for examples of people that follow that rule and examples who violate that rule so if they see a boy who is tough, great. Where do they see women who are tough,p they mentioned their mothers and got blank looks by how they became that tough. By raising you, son. You say this age group was 7 to 10. Offers a unique opportunity and window of influence, so how do we capitalize on that? We know that boys this age are learning things in rules so that can be to one parent's advantage in the sense he learns I need to brush my teeth before bed every time but might be rues that girl, you can't tell secrets to. That's where we want to bring it back to having conversations openly. For parents to give examples of girls they can tell secrets to and to ask the boys for more specific examples of the kids in their class they can trust and not trust and brings in norflexable thinking. It's okay this idea of social shaping. Is it wrong for us to talk about chivalry and open the doors for women but he said some of this is social shaping but, again, goes back to the key open the door for a guy. Open the door for a person. It's all a matter of general respect. Right. I mean social shaping can be great in certain ways and teaches us values like being nice and do unto others as you would do, you know, that kind of thing but at the same time we want to look at the rigid rules that might get us into trouble and those are the ones we try to question. All right, Dr. David Anderson, T.J., great job with those little boys. I spoke with middle schoolers and we'll bring that to you tomorrow. Send it over to ginger.

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