New video project follows the lives of pre-teens for 5 years

SHE Media followed a group of kids for five years, from ages 9 to 14, to see how their confidence changed. Then, Deborah Roberts sat down with their parents to talk about what they learned about their kids.
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Now to a glimpse into the changing lives of kids. A filmmaker followed a group of 9-year-olds for five years to see how their confidence changed. Deborah Roberts sat down with their parents. Good morning, Deborah. Reporter: If you lived with or raised an adolescent, you know it is like riding a roller coaster. They're up one day, down the next. What are the kidding truly feeling inside? Well, thanks to a group called she media which spent those five years with a group of kids for their hatch project we get a close look at childhood in action. I am the awesomest. Reporter: Fourth graders unbridled. Yes, I am a feminist. Reporter: Sounding off on feelings and self-image. It's important for you to be yourself because if you're not yourself then who are you? Reporter: For five years these New York kids opened up. 25 of them in all. Today they're high school freshmen. Zakie, jojo, Julia, Gabrielle. Their parents reflecting on those years. What has surprises you the most. Just to see how Gabrielle has developed you get to see a bit of your daughter at home but you don't get to see her in an environment like this. Grappling for identity has become something that's palpable. With the video it's heartbreaking. Five years ago she's in her own element. Reporter: No surprise. Those once self-assured 9-year-olds at 14 now saying -- if five years ago I was steadily confident in the things that I was doing. Now there's a lot more pressure. I definitely feel less confident of myself. Were you prepared for the confidence dip. When he says in this video he is less confident I try to ferret out which part is confidence because he's just realized he doesn't know everything and what part is because he doesn't feel he belongs. She seemed so confident. I was not fully expecting as big a dip. Jojo said she doesn't feel confident. She left in a pink halter top and plaid jacket. Maybe she doesn't feel that way but she's actually on top of it. Reporter: Have man city ski is the CEO of she media. I want us to look at this age window. It is fundamental to long-term confidence. They're going through puberty at the same time with perpetual feedback from social media. I believe social media directly infringes upon confidence. Reporter: We've all noticed that as our kids grow, so does their relines on social media. Why don't people like my posts? I'm not good enough? I'm scared to miss out on things. I got rid of all my social media. It made me feel bad us I felt like I had to post oftenment I'm a lot happier. He started on Instagram then he felt the pressure and he felt that it was taking away from his life. Basically looking at what all these other people are doing. Right. And then they're saying well, why am I not doing that. If you had known who your 9-year-old was going to grow up at this stage how would you have parented differently? Or would you? I probably would have held back on the phone and granting that as early as I did. Maybe a little bit less TV time. TV became a big thing. What about between now and their senior year, 14 and 18, what do you think you're going to see? A roller coaster of all roller coasters. All started high school this year. That's a big adjustment for all of them. I think they're better people than I was. Turn around and suddenly your kid is sneering. Where did that kid go? It's hard to watch sometimes. But I want parents to take away the kids are going to be okay. These kids are mostly okay. What a bold and brave experiment. Zaki's mother said he's still abstaining from social media and the girl, their parents say, are much more in tune with what feels healthy and what does not. One dad told us, Michael, the kids can handle tough subjects. They just need to be asked and given space without judgment to talk about them. I think sometimes as parents you're afraid to throw too much on your kid's plate but so many parents watch this morning, what can they do to help their kids keep that early confidence, the confidence they had when they are 9? These parents are saying what's really important, give them a space to talk. These kids got a chance on a regular basis to talk to each other. They'll have those dips. It's science. These kids' brains change but if you stay there as a parent and listen, let them talk, give them space to do it they'll probably be okay. Let's hope. One of the hardest thing to do is give your kids a little space. You and I are struggling. You have to keep the lines open. I love it when you do these. So informative. I enjoy it. Ginger, what you got? A "Gma" moment

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