Transcript for How walking away in the middle of a fight with your spouse could help your marriage
There are risking that I Cindy to clean your baggage my baggage unfortunately isn't this relationship. But I do need to clean mind and I need to work on IQ just. Yeah. No kidding me you do something. Understand your irresponsible few answers are things that you didn't you do better. Except you got about one another and not blame these are. Knowing your trigger is is another great who will earth shattering years cell and your relationship. Let me like I am even but it need to and they can how you. Top your partner not he that hay Whitney brought this up like this is why we feel that's why it's your part in any knowledge. That hopefully you know maybe it just how they say something differently. Whatever else comes up winters you know happened you hero to stay ahead of it. Instead of take you out of your partner and and being frustrated and you ask aggressors decide. You resort hundreds or say hey I'm feeling this way I don't know why but just you know if I'm shorter frustrates. We always say over communique all you think kids. It means he is to start talking about just coming from it plays start talking and then listening. Check in. Is like a temperature gauge your relationship. So when you did you see where your first feeling you give each other affirmations Yasser what you need you on whatever is going on so if someone who is frustrated following gate of the check in about an hour you know frustrated belts on network. Nothing do with you this we do not to hear on yourself. When there are useless and witness. So the next step would be listen up I'm listening is something I. Better rat it is hard to listen to C one energy act and you want to say. Solution and this is it just looks and your partner and your friend is they might just live Chile needs you to let's. In result of our you know acted listening and. Just like this isn't a great job right now Dioner. I totally. Did not listening yet. Are you and we're all this mean they'll issue is how much respect and willing to respect and years and was sincere or. Charge for news. There's if you know our story can understand this news. Core of the for us and should be an integration. You know this is the first relationship. Ever tried. And be honest now obviously you're already on Iowa residents. It's too muted its smallest gains. Q and allow your partnered to answer questions for us. Chelsea Richards has always been here there's much. You know all your coroner's freshmen if you have a few around telling choose walk. Bees and your partner could be more empathetic around while you might hesitate knocks it personally you. Understand that you don't wanna do not trying to be deceptive purpose. But there might be under you know waiters under what. Healy is another tip in something that I had a really tough time with I never once thought Blair wants out right away. But what I learned in our relationship to that sometimes when I walk away would he walks away it's actually better her odds and how we resolve. Ice asked how. He needs more time to process. And he met combatant OK I realized that Nike pounding the issue is not gonna get there any faster I. And I think minutes what a career writing about pleasing in the beginning for us personally things are really good tool to be able to name when you're gonna come back so even finished issue. We don't think leaving. The fight there and walking Whitman and that should result. Crude. For us to do something that you know we admittedly an. All right Howard bidders are Wafer. The fact that spirituality. Lost its police and our allies whose lives and so Roberts we definitely. Found are higher target. Users different ways and took prayer out a higher power just it's more about acquiring yourself. It's not just not making time but also making special time eating at that time to go to work EU intention and I keep attention on your kids. Are heaping attention on your marriage. I can get trapped enough left over time. Once reduce our metal markets around. That's left over time before you go to bed. Note it is it is different than saying hey let's from about horses across the warmest hall. And services Susan moments and really connected to you would be. Also. Really important to cleanup you're sad history. But also to clean up that your partner sad history that you might have stopped them. Apologizing you know is huge your partner and also good for UIR I'm out anything I think all and in my butt and just hasn't tried so heart speaker. Your earlier. Don't trees like the enemy. Remembered and Hugo Ortiz I Syria just to remind myself because I saw him out on a regular basis federal. Yes thirteen and under stickler on. He. Is that the biggest and best tool and hit that we aggregate any you know I NGU. A dozen and it you know it takes time that I never air this in our audience is don't be discouraged because. You know I I was discouraged and very beginning when he finally write one and it's not well. He suggests there before anybody whether they're single Mary's army doesn't matter what walk alike we're hearing. You might married and you begin or anything but his parents are somebody. I can look it this year and like okay this is like that started plague. Our new marriage. And hoping that we continue to grow up in that we know we aren't.
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