Should you tell your kids they can do anything?

Michael and Sara discuss a recent New York Times article about being honest with your kids.
3:30 | 04/10/19

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As parents, Michael and I often talk about parenting styles. He's a lot further along and his kids are still here. So, I like to ask for advice. The goal at a young age is to keep them alive. Last week, there was an awesome article in "The New York Times." The headline read, stop asking kids what they want to be when they grow up. And the three takeaways of this article, like, the reasoning behind this, it creates the idea that a person, one, is defined by their work, two, it suggests everyone has a single calling, and three, it often sets their expectations too high for what you get in real life. Which I like to call my 20s, it was very disappointing. But what do you think of this? I think you should encourage your kids. I don't think you should tell your kids, you can do this or that if they don't have the talent to do it. As parents, you want your kids to do everything. You believe in them. If your kid isn't that good don't lie to a poor kid. I had a debate with a friend. We were talking, a what if situation. Let's say your kid is the outtake of an American idol video, that's the bad one, do you tell your child when they ask you, like, for advice, do you tell them they're good anyway, support them. My take was that you're honest with their level of skill but you say, if you're having fun, baby, mommy will support you the whole way. I'm not going to set them up to have someone else tell them you suck. If that's okay with them and they know they're not the best at singing -- You pretty much tell them they suck but in a nicer way. Somehow, somehow -- I know you're the outtake on "American idol," but you keep on going. No, stop it. But my friend said the opposite. She would say, you go, you just dream big. I think there -- I disagreed on that point. Well, I just believe you encourage your kids. You encourage them. But I don't want to lie to you. My kids, they want to do something, I'm like, you know, that's awesome, that's great. I know that if it's not a strong suit I'm not going to let them waste time. What if Michael junior came to you and said, I'm going to be in the NFL. I'd say good luck, boy, it's hard. It's hard. My son, he plays two years in high school and he was a good player. He wasn't a great player. That's what I mean. Do you tell him that? He knew he wasn't that great. I'm not being that harsh. He knew he wasn't -- What if he wanted to Rudy it and keep playing. I always say daddy got beat up enough for the whole family, you don't have to go out there and play. What Chris rock said. Chris rock told the principal, why do you lie to students at an event, tell them they can be whatever they want to be. Tell them to learn a trade. The world needs welders, too. It's to say that everybody's not meant to be famous and in this environment we're in. You can get on the internet and be famous. That's not the goal. The goal in life is to be happy. Yes. I don't want to lie to my kids and tell them something they're not. So much to talk about.

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